5 Pressurizing Standards of Beauty

Popular culture has placed a lot of pressure on how to look, feel, and act a certain way. Not conforming to the standard of beauty, can be one of the most difficult tasks for women. 

Self-doubt seem to be inevitable when all we see is airbrushed and filtered women on every billboard, magazine cover, music video, and every social media profile picture. 

We verbally and internally body shame ourselves which blemishes and scars self-love.

The pressure is in abundance, and we practically kill ourselves with plastic surgery, implants, tanning, and skin bleaching just to fit into that standard. We think that if we look a certain way we will feel a certain way. These horrible habits that we have adopted to try to fit-in, do not cure low self-esteem. 

Self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love start within. You have to love yourself, flaws and all. There is not enough plastic surgery and Botox in the world to give you high self-esteem.

I reblogged this post because women need to understand that they are beautiful regardless of shaving, contour, bumps and blemishes, stretch marks, muffin tops, or having perfect nails and hair.
We are all beautiful and when self-love is a priority, confidence becomes your standard of beauty.

-Pinkspen

LipstickForLunch

As a person who writes about beauty products on a regular basis, I feel that it is my responsibility to speak about the darker aspects of this world as well. Beauty standards all around the globe are becoming more and more unforgiving by the minute, making it painfully hard for women to feel confident in their own skin. Of course, in an ideal world, everyone should be brave enough to embrace their “flaws” but constant scrutiny at a microscopic level can make the strongest succumb to the pressure. Here are 5 beauty standards that I would banish from the face of the planet if I had supernatural powers (until then, this blog will have to suffice).

1. Greasy roots – So many women feel obliged to wash their hair more often than they want, just to avoid showing up at work with those darned greasy roots. This makes for an…

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National “Best” Friends Day

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about my friendships from the past and present. I have struggled with maintaining friendships like most of us, and I have always wondered why… Of course we all have those friends that are in it until death do us part, but others have not sustained but they have taught me something about myself…  Continue reading “National “Best” Friends Day”

Everything in Moderation: the story of a thick girl

​I always wanted an hour-glass figure. It was all I could think about. I would binge exercise and go on diets for months at a time.

I spent so much time in the gym imagining how I would look with that figure. I day-dreamed that if I was shaped like a Coke bottle, I would walk the streets, like a runway, and Beyoncé all over everyone. 

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Internalized Racial Beauty-Shaming 

I love the infinite shades of a woman’s skin. 

There are so many different pigments and highlights; all are beautiful. From pink pale to blue-black, every shade should be uplifted for its uniqueness, not broken and shamed. 

As a Black woman, I cannot ignore the Memes and cyber bullying against women who are dark-skin. 

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About: Leading Lady Campaign

The Leading Lady Campaign seeks to empower women and girls, to defy obstacles, self-doubt, and fear so that they can reach their dreams. The Campaign will shine a light on those women who are making their marks a woman, #ladyboss, single-mother, student, wife, leader and/or mentor.


LADYHOOD journey believes in promoting, highlighting, and uplifting these women. We all have a journey. We share commonalities and differences, but to every woman and girl, your journey, is our journey. We are in this together and we should always try to work together and learn from one another.

The Leading Lady Campaign will highlight women who are Mompreneurs, Professional Bloggers, small business owners, CEOs and Founders, bachelor’s and master’s students, mothers, and up-and-coming career women. 

LADYHOOD journey would like to thank these role models, leaders, scholars, motivators, innovators, and mentors to young women and in their communities. 

You are a #ladyboss and we apprieciate you for uplifting young women to be the best verisons of themselves. 

The #LeadingLady Campaign will kick-off July 2017.  See you then! 

 

Get Your Body Back Foolishness: the story of a thick girl

 

​I remember struggling with my weight when I was in high school; that was over 10 years ago, and I am still struggling.

After I gave birth to my daughter, that struggle did not get any easier. I was breastfeeding and did not want more children anytime soon, so to avoid lowering my milk production, I was prescribed the mini-pill as the only form of birth control that I could take.

I gained 50 lbs. in 2 months

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Congratulations to Ta’lor: March Winner of the College Mate Contest

I still cannot believe I won the March Monthly Writing Contest for College Mate. I am so thankful to Alexis Chateau, every blogger and reader who took the time to view my article, Decoding the Bro-Code: One Night Stand or Long Term Girlfriend? It really means so much to me; words cannot express.

I have connected with so many of you and it brings me joy to know that so many see the value in my article, so thank you all!!!

Please check out this original post about my journey creating my winning article and my future plans as a blogger and author!

Pinkspen 💋

COLLEGE MATE

Launching the College Mate Contest was the best thing we ever did for our student branch of the Alexis Chateau PR firm.

Over the last few months, it provided a platform to help writers hone their writing and editing skills, while providing them with valuable experience for working with external publications.

But beyond the goodwill of the contest, there is also the fun, and the drama, and the competition itself. We have to admit, watching the writers go neck to neck, and get their social media engines revved up, is quite the experience.

The New CMC Champion

For the first two months, Shandean was reigning champion. But when Ta’lor submitted Decoding the Bro Code: One Night Stand or Long-Term Girlfriend as Pinkspen, it was an instant hit with our readers.

The girls wanted advice on navigating the perilous terrain of college dating. And the guys were curious to find out just…

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Why I prefer to take the stairs

Healthy wellness is a journey…. it is not a sprint, it is a marathon. In the past, I have jumped into full work out plans and diets; I was unsuccessful. 

For some, jumping into a workout may be beneficial, but for me it never helped me change my lifestyle. Eventually, I gave up, binged, and had to start all over again in my weight loss journey.

Making small steps towards your weight loss journey can help you focus on the little things and eventually, the little things become habitual.

I re-blogged this post because little things like taking the stairs are small steps toward a Happy and Healthy life.

  • Love your body as it is now.
  • Make small changes in your unhealthy habits. 
  • Have a Happy and Healthy journey to wellness by changing the way you think about weight loss. 

-Pinkspen

The Lean, Mean, Sexy Machine

As a normal woman with a full-time deskbound job, office hours are very sedentary. Sitting for hours compresses our spines, leading to backaches and shoulder stiffness. In order to avoid this, it’s good to get up and stretch. I also like adding a little movement by taking the stairs instead of the elevator whenever I need to go upstairs.

Besides giving us the opportunity to lengthen our spines, climbing stairs is widely touted as a good cardiovascular activity. Google the benefits and you’ll find pages and pages of articles! Since the office elevators move like turtles anyway, I can get where I want more quickly by taking the stairs.

Stair climbing and power walking were the first exercises I started with during this health journey. Today, I still do both to satisfy my need to move and stay active. I encourage friends and relatives to do them since they don’t…

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