“a girl doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t need her.” -Marilyn Monroe
“Is it strange for me to say that
If I were to die today
There’s not a thing I would change
I’ve lived well
Maybe I have made mistakes and been through my fair share of pain
But all in all, it’s been okay, I’ve lived well
Q. “Why do you think so many women who want to be married aren’t?” -Belinda Luscombe
A. “Women’s standards and requirements have lowered. And as men, we know that. We have taken advantage of it. We’ve created terms that we feed to women that allow us to exist as we do. We created the term ‘nagging.’
“Where after all, do universal human rights begin? In small places, close to home – so close and so small they cannot be seen on any map of the world. Test they are the world of the individual person; the neighborhood he lives in, the school or college he attends; the factory, farm, or office where he works.
So, I got off track, but there is always a good quote up my sleeve! I would like to thank Jess Wade, who inspired me to participate in this challenge. Please check out her blog Daring to Jess, to learn through her experiences!
When I was thinking about the final quote that I wanted to share, I considered so many different strong women with voices… Alicia Keys, Malala Yousafzai, Erykah Badu, Angela Davis, Lauryn Hill, Rosa Parks…
Being a woman is not easy. I was asked on New Years Eve, why the focus of my blog was on women being the best versions of themselves and why were men not included? The exclusion was not on purpose, necessarily, but it is, without a doubt, that women need more of a focus because, this is in fact a [heterosexual] mans world.
I love words because they allow me to express myself, when often times, I find myself to be speechless, as a speaker. As a writer, I can describe every ounce of me and that is why I love quotes. Quotations provide a short, detailed, descriptive, and insightful look into the mind of a speaker.
I was not necessarily nominated for this challenge, but I was inspired to participate! I visited a page of Jess Wade, who inspired me through her writing and as a mature blogger. I am new to this community of writers, poets, artists, photographers, etc. but, I have been writing since my first pencil hit a blank page.
I appreciate Jess for checking out my site, reading some of my posts, and encouraging me to participate in this challenge. Please check out her page…she is an inspiration!
This first quote is something that I aim to live by everyday.
As women in this mans world, this can cause many inferior feelings about our worth.
We are taught in the media, and even in our homes, that we are not as important as men, which causes, low self-esteem; a lack of self-love, self-respect, value, and overall inequality for us in society.
I hope this quote inspires someone to see themselves as more than what popular culture and social media tells them they should be!
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The individuals that I am nominating are all blogs that have inspired me in some way! Not sure, if they will participate, but I would love to see what they come up with because they are so creative, talented, and intellectual!
- 3 quotes over 3 days
- Thank the person who nominated you
- 3 nominees each day to complete the challenge
- Inform the nominees of their nomination
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Linus Van Pelt: [after Linus and Charlie Brown discover the little tree] Gee, do they still make wooden Christmas trees?
Charlie Brown: This little green one here seems to need a home.
Linus Van Pelt: I don’t know, Charlie Brown. Remember what Lucy said? This doesn’t seem to fit the modern spirit.
Charlie Brown: I don’t care. We’ll decorate it and it’ll be just right for our play. Besides, I think it needs me.
[picks up tree; a lot of needles fall off]
Christmas is the time of year for family & friends, giving, and joy. Decorating the Christmas tree, stringing lights on the porch & windows, drinking egg nog, hot chocolate with marshmallows & wassail, giving & opening presents, Christmas cards, snuggling under a blanket watching holiday movies, attending the Christmas service at church, playing in the snow, and ugly sweater Christmas parties are fun traditions that I love to share with family and friends.
Christmas is also the time of year when you sit in traffic for hours, parking spaces are stolen, theft is high, we spend more than we have, bills go unpaid, and greed, guilt, ungratefulness, jealousy & envy are inevitable.
This is not what Christmas means to me.
When I was a child, I had no idea what my parents went through to make sure we had a good Christmas. Shopping on Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving (after you just spent your bill money, on the biggest dinner of the year), buying wrapping paper, bows, & ribbon, baking cookies for Santa Claus, wrapping gifts until 2 in the morning, getting up at 7:00a to cook us breakfast, telling the story of when Jesus was born to Mary in Bethlehem… the list goes on-and-on. I have wonderful holiday memories of Christmas time with my family, but as I got older, I began hating the greed, guilt, ungratefulness, envy that I felt every year…
…I hoped I would get certain presents and had to spend extra money on my friends & family (Christmas is the season of giving) – Greed
…When I couldn’t afford to buy certain gifts, I would feel bad because I didn’t have enough money – Guilt
…Not getting what I wanted made me feel badly – Ungratefulness
…I felt badly when my friends got more gifts than I did – Jealousy & Envy
The standard of Christmas is cultural, traditional, and popular culture & media have made it so hard to keep up. We have allowed ourselves to just go-with-the-flow, and do what the media tells us we should do when it comes to celebrating Christmas. We have even told ourselves that Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus, when in reality, I do not think that God is pleased with the way we choose to celebrate…the extra spending, when in reality, we don’t have the money to spend. Every story in the Bible speaks about how Jesus gave to the needy, the poor, the less fortunate, the sick. I didn’t read a single verse in the Bible, about lights, Christmas trees, decorations, over-eating…the list goes on-and-on… The spending spirit, has become the American tradition during the Christmas holiday and it causes stress on us because we are just trying to keep up.
This is my daughters first Christmas and I decided that I am not buying a tree, ornaments, lights, wreaths, wrapping paper, bows, ribbons, gift bags; un-needed toys, clothing and shoes. I don’t want my daughter to think that this is what Christmas is about. I got my immediate family each one gift and a few friends a gift and that’s it! I refuse to be stressed about a man-made holiday, no matter what meaning is behind it. And sadly, I feel guilty about not participating in the traditions…people make you feel bad…
“you are not gonna get your baby a tree?”
“it’s her first Christmas! She deserves some decorations!”
“so, how does the baby like her tree?”
“you are not getting the baby any gifts?”
I am not rich! I am not even in a good financial state and most would still spend the money for their bills, to try to have a good Christmas, but that is just not me. The pressure is not fair.
The true meaning of Christmas, is about the simple things, spending time with family, laughter, love, joy, and peace.
Christmas is not about spending you last dime!
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Every now and then, I think about my relationship and get discouraged. As beautiful as they are, relationships take patience, hard work, and ultimate trust in someone. You have to trust that they will hold your heart, have your best interest at heart, and protect your heart at all times.
Sometimes, you need to be reminded of what relationships bring to your life. I chose some love quotes to help myself to remember why I fell in love with my boyfriend in the first place, and as a girlfriend and future wife, I wanted to remind myself that true love, is one of the strongest bonds you can have with an individual. It is so important not to lose sight of the person you fell in love with, because as time goes on, you sometimes forget the reasons you fell for them in the first place… Life can get in the way, peoples opinion of your relationship can definitely get in the way, and we often times take the person we love for granted.
One of my favorite quotes, “If ever two were one, then surely we…” (Anne Bradstreet, 1612–1672).
I have always left the quote incomplete when I write it, because it makes you think… you have to fill in the blank for yourself to determine the content. I think this quote is so powerful, and for me, it means that he and I are one, only because we are together….without him, I would feel incomplete…lost… And being together, although difficult at times, makes me feel like I am the complete essence of everything I wanted to be because he makes me better….
I hope these quotes make you appreciate your relationship and remind you, just how much, that certain someone means to you…
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Everyday, I am falling more in love with the woman I am!
Definition of self–love
: love of self:a:conceitb: regard for one’s own happiness or advantage
“After all, taking care of oneself is everything but a selfish act. Indeed, self-love intrinsically involves acceptance of both positive features and those which tend to be perceived as negative. Moreover, it goes without saying that flaws and mistakes are part of our identity and should not be denied or omitted. Shortcomings, along with the characteristics we see as appealing, should thus be accepted.”
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