28 Reasons on my 28th birthday 

There are so many reasons for me to be grateful for the last 28 years. I have decided to focus on those things and the people in my life that make life so great! On your birthday, make a list of what and who you are grateful for! 

Here are the 28 Reasons why 28 years have been so amazing: 

1. My relationship with God – for guiding my steps and for your grace.

2. My daughter – for her laugh, smile and for making me a stronger woman. 

3. My mother – for her love, continous support, and for being there as a mentor, good parent to me, and grandparent to my daughter.

4. My father – for his love, advice, support and for being a role model, awesome father and grandfather. 

5. My younger sister – for your kind heart, your love, and for your consistent support. You are a wonderful auntie! 

6. My daughters Godmother – you have been there as a friend and cousin; always giving her time, laughs and long talks.

7. My aunts, uncles, all of my cousins -from my mom and dads side, the memories, the laughs, hugs and love means so much!

8. The father of my daughter – seeing him with her brings me so much joy. 

9. My best friend (she knows who she is) – you are laughs, memories, love, and light in my life. 

10. My Godsons – all three of you are amazing young boys and men, you are capable of everything you want, with God on your side. 

11. My friends (near and far) – you are all so uniquely beautiful. I have a rainbow of friends and it is such a blessing. different cultures, races, genders, religions…all so beautiful, understanding, and uplifting!

12. The Pittsburgh Black Breastfeeding Circle  – these women helped me through one of the most difficult times in my life, battling depression and breastfeeding was not easy, but I successfully nursed for 14 months with their support! 

13. My It Works! team of Distributors – I am new to the business and being a business woman, and I feel so welcomed, valued, supported while receiving help tightening, toning, detoxing, and cleansing my body and getting out of debt while doing it. 💚

14. My place of employment – for accepting me and taking a chance by giving me the opportunity to support my daughter after my unpaid maternity leave. 

15. My BA in Creative Writing -although its rare to make money in it, I learned that if you use punctuation, you can write how you would like to. Your tone, style, should be unique.

16. My MSW degree – the day I decided to take some social work courses for an elective during my undergrad, was the day I knew that helping others was my passion. 

17. My Strengths-Based Family Workers Credential class and classmates – for showing me the true importance of self-care. 

18. My church – for allowing me to learn about God and experience rock climbing, cave exploring, paint ball, a zip line, high ropes courses, and for a famine where we slept in refrigerator boxes overnight, in the winter. 

19. Precious Frazier, CEO of Rock Your Reality – for her mentor-ship in building my blog and brand. 

20. Iced Coffee, Dark Beer, and Red Red Wine 🍷🍷🍷 – you top off the night

21. For Ladies Night – the dancing, singing, laughing, bathroom talks… I love every chance I get!

22. The #Blacklivesmatter movement – for valuing human life, for making strides in protecting black girls and boys from police brutality, and for defying discrimination 

23. The Women’s March for Peace – for placing value on protecting women and girls

24. The LGBT+ community – for Pride week, defying gender, sexual orientation, and religious standards; we are all equal.

25. Alessia Cara – you are the voice of this generation; you shine a light on uniqueness and ignoring popular culture. 

26. The WordPress Blogging community and my 500+ followers – you have liked, re-blogged, gave advice and kind words by commenting, and to those who have shared my posts on social media, I have grown so much!!!!

27. My 4th grade teacher – you were always for peace and love…we have reconnected and no matter what, you are an inspiration

28. Youth and families – youth are the foundation of society and their families provide the foundation; build up families, build this nation. 

Pinkspen 💋


a Mother’s Day Love Letter 

To my dearest child,

I could not see you smile, hear you laugh, or hold you in my arms, but I loved you in the womb. 

You came into this world a surprise to mommy, but it was a beautiful surprise….

The first time I held you, we cried together as you immediately latched to my breast. 

Seeing you smile, makes me smile. 

Hearing you laugh, makes me laugh. 

From your first words to your first steps, I fall more-and-more in love with you.

You are the greatest Mother’s Day gift! I will love you forever, entirely.

Your mother,

-Pinkspen 💋

Becoming a mom was and is the best part of my life. Is it tough? Yes! Do I get frustrated? Yes! Would I have it any other way? Not for anyone or anything in this world. 


Can I just say that I appreciate all of you bloggers!!!! This WordPress community is amazing. I have reached 2,000 views this month and it is all because of all of you!! 🤗

Thank you to every blogger that follows me! All 400+ of you!!! You all believe in my mission to uplift women! You support me, challenge me, and inspire me! I cannot thank you enough!!!! 😚

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My Gratitude Journal: Day 1

Self-Care: Thankfulness and Gratitude

Do you need something positive, for yourself, in your life?

Often times, it can be difficult to look at life and see it for all the beauty that it brings. It is so easy for us to judge, point fingers, and complain, but it is important to point out the blessings in our lives because this is what keeps us humble. Expressing thanks and gratitude are so important, because even in difficult times, we are able to focus on the positive aspects of life. Stress is a killer, and finding ways to reduce stress is so important for healthy living.

Introducing positive self-care habits into your life, can help relieve stress and give you another outlook on your current situation.

Keeping a Gratitude Journal can help with can provide multiple benefits:

“As we’ve reported many times over the years, studies have traced a range of impressive benefits to the simple act of writing down the things for which we’re grateful—benefits including better sleep, fewer symptoms of illness, and more happiness among adults and kids alike.” -Jason Marsh

Read More: Tips for Keeping a Gratitude Journal  http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/tips_for_keeping_a_gratitude_journal

What is a Gratitude Journal?

According to Jason Marsh , “The basic practice is straightforward. In many of the studies, people are simply instructed to record five things they experienced in the past week for which they’re grateful. The entries are supposed to be brief—just a single sentence—and they range from the mundane (“waking up this morning”) to the sublime (“the generosity of friends”) to the timeless (“the Rolling Stones”).”

“For years I’ve been advocating the power and pleasure of being grateful. I kept a gratitude journal for a full decade without fail—and urged you all to do the same. Then life got busy. My schedule overwhelmed me. I still opened my journal some nights, but my ritual of writing down five things I was grateful for every day started slipping away.” -Oprah Winfrey

Read More: What Oprah Knows for Sure About Gratitude http://www.oprah.com/spirit/oprahs-gratitude-journal-oprah-on-gratitude

The most important aspect about keeping a Gratitude Journal is highlighting those things that you are grateful for, the positive things in your life, and the things that bring you joy.

My Pledge

It is important for me to keep this journal because I have low moments, and I need to remind myself of my blessings. I have been slowly adapting self-care habits into my life because I do not want to be a pessimistic, negative thinking, spiteful person. I have not always expressed myself in the most healthy way, and with this Gratitude Journal, I am hoping I can express and remind myself that there is so much to be thankful for.

Pledge: Every day, for the next 7 days, I will write down 5 things that I am grateful for; the positive things in my life, and the things that make me happy!

Journal Entry 1

Today was a really rough day for me. I have not been in the best mood…my personal life is a little rocky but I can still see the joys in my life. Although, I am not sure of what the future holds, I know that God has me in his hands and he will guide me through whatever obstacles that may come my way. I am truly thankful and so grateful for so many things in my life, but it is important to document these things because it is easy to take things for granted. I don’t want to forget my blessings, and I don’t want to be ungrateful for all that God has blessed me with.

1. I am so grateful for my beautiful daughter! She is so intelligent, energetic, and she has a beautiful spirit. I am so blessed to have her, to hold her, to watch her grow up. I thank God for this little girl and I love her more and more every day. 

2. I have a great family! My mother, father, younger sister, my cousins… their support, love, and prayers are what motivates me to be a better me. 

3. I am grateful for waking up in the morning, for life and breath!

4. I am grateful for writing. It helps me get through tough times because I can express my thoughts in a way that I cannot when I speak.

5. I feel so blessed for my boyfriend. He is such an awesome father, and I do not tell him enough. No matter the difficulties, we have so much love for one another. I cherish our love and value our relationship.