No. Cut Him Off.

Every woman deserves to feel wanted. If you do not fee wanted, then you are not. If you doubt that he loves you, he probably doesn’t. As the author stated so plainly “Love is not complicated.”

Check out more from Alice in Wonderlust on dating and relationships. 

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So you match with this guy on Tinder. His chat is pretty decent, so you meet up for a drink. Instant connection. You go home with butterflies in your stomach. You fall into a pattern of seeing each other once of twice a week. It’s all going well. It’s like you’re going out, but neither of you has brought up “what you are” yet. After 2 months, you raise the question. He says he’s not really sure yet, and needs more time to decide. So you give him time. After 3 months, you raise the question again. He says he’s still not sure. You start to feel a little irked. I mean, it’s been 3 months. You’re sure. So why isn’t he? You wonder whether you should just sit out. Maybe 3 months is too soon. Maybe after 4, he’ll realize how great you are and make it official. Or…

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Decoding the Bro Code: One Night Stand or Long-term Girlfriend?

I am overjoyed about COLLEGE MATE publishing my article for their March Monthly Writing Contest.

Please check out my article, Like, Share, Comment, Re-blog!!!!!
I seek to uplift, empower, and challenge women to be the best versions of themselves. 

College life is difficult for relationships and helping college freshman females to navigate through the differences between a FWB or a real intimate relationship, is my goal!

These are the signs to look out for if a guy just wants you as a Friend With Benefits…

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I started college with big expectations of college guys. Most of those expectations were based on what I knew about high school boys; and college boys were supposed to be even better! I fully expected to find my college sweetheart, and live “happily ever after”.

Instead, what I found was that most college guys had one goal: to get you in bed. They would use every pick-up line, and give every compliment, just to trick you into  dropping by their dorm room to “watch a movie.” 

I found myself repeating this cycle until one day, I had to face the truth. I cried as I looked at myself in the mirror, and realized I was still single and lonely. I wanted a boyfriend, not casual sex.

Ladies, don’t be fooled, as I was. As freshman females, you are the fresh meat on a college campus.

College guys love to check out the new…

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Relationship Quotes

Every now and then, I think about my relationship and get discouraged. As beautiful as they are, relationships take patience, hard work, and ultimate trust in someone. You have to trust that they will hold your heart, have your best interest at heart, and protect your heart at all times.

Sometimes, you need to be reminded of what relationships bring to your life. I chose some love quotes to help myself to remember why I fell in love with my boyfriend in the first place, and as a girlfriend and future wife, I wanted to remind myself that true love, is one of the strongest bonds you can have with an individual. It is so important not to lose sight of the person you fell in love with, because as time goes on, you sometimes forget the reasons you fell for them in the first place… Life can get in the way, peoples opinion of your relationship can definitely get in the way, and we often times take the person we love for granted.

One of my favorite quotes, “If ever two were one, then surely we…” (Anne Bradstreet, 1612–1672). 

I have always left the quote incomplete when I write it, because it makes you think… you have to fill in the blank for yourself to determine the content. I think this quote is so powerful, and for me, it means that he and I are one, only because we are together….without him, I would feel incomplete…lost… And being together, although difficult at times, makes me feel like I am the complete essence of everything I wanted to be because he makes me better….

-Pinkspen

 

I hope these quotes make you appreciate your relationship and remind you, just how much, that certain someone means to you…

 

 

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College 101 for Freshman Females

University College of the World
College 101 for Freshman Females
Fall-Spring 2016-2017, LIFE 12345, 67890
M/T/W/Th/F/S/Sun 12:00a-11:59p
4 credits

Instructor: Ms. Pinkspen, MSW
Office Hours: M/T/W/Th/F/S/Sun 12:00a-11:59p
Contact: ladyhoodjourney.com

Welcome & Introduction:
Welcome to College 101 for Freshman Females. I am your instructor, Pinkspen. We will begin this course together where we will work together to prevent the most common mistakes that freshman females make when it comes to various forms of relationships on a college campus. This class is for freshman girls in college, “upper-classwomen” (Pinkspen), and high school girls who will someday graduate and be shipped off to a world that I wish someone prepared me for. Enroll in this course today!

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All the Single Ladies…

“I need to be in a relationship.”

Every time someone says these words, it just shows that “a relationship” is the last thing they need… (don’t get mad, just listen)

In 2007, I graduated high school. I was in a relationship that was slowly falling apart. I remember being at a welcome event on campus in the gymnasium with my friends. We were seated in the middle of about 60 rows of seats. I turned around, and there was this guy walking in late at the back of the room and I honestly just stared at him. Later on that day, there was a meet-and-greet for the Black Student Union on campus, and I saw him sitting outside in the quad with another freshman female. They were sitting really close together, so I assumed they were involved in some way. I continued to mingle and get to know students on campus at the event. Somehow, he ended up standing next to me as I stood in a group of friends, talking, so of course I said hello. We exchanged pleasantries, and after talking and laughing for a bit, I could tell he was interested but I didn’t forget that he was just all “booed up” with another girl a few minutes ago and I was in a relationship. Over the course of the next few weeks, I continued to see him. He would be outside of the Student Union on campus, at the gas station; I would see him driving his car, walking down the street, at the gym; he was everywhere. My boyfriend and I were not in a good place. I was young, and I needed a drama free life, so our relationship ended.  Now that I was single for the first time on a college campus I wanted to enjoy that life. I went out with my girls and went to every house party I could. One night, while at a party, as I danced in a circle with my girls, I saw him standing in the corner with his boys and I got super bold and walked over to him and we conversed for a while. The party ended with the police shutting it down, and of course, there he was to save my life. He drove me back to my dorm and we exchanged numbers. I had never expected a relationship of any kind, because I was trying to be single, but overtime, in my first year of college, I was in another relationship within a month.

This was a big mistake. Of course I learned a lot during this relationship; about love, life, and myself, but I jumped into this relationship way to quickly!

Companionship is a natural desire, but it is not what you need.

You may want a relationship, but what you need is much more important.

I have never found a quality relationship when I was looking for one. You know why? Because, being single is about taking care yourself not focusing on trying to find a man…It is about loving yourself; growing and becoming a stronger you.

How can you love someone else, if you do not love yourself?

The most important relationship next to your relationship with your greater power, is the one with yourself.

If you come into a relationship, broken, then you will break the other person. Hurt people, hurt people…and when someone you love hurts, you hurt too.

Although I am in a completely new and stronger relationship now, it happened when I was not searching…

If you have been single for a long time, and you are wondering why, you are on the right track. Asking yourself ‘why’ is essential to your personal growth.

Of course being single can be difficult, but so is being in a relationship…

Find a mentor or a counselor. Stop talking to your friends and family, their biases will steer you in the wrong direction because they love you…

So let go and let God! And don’t pray and worry…he will come when you are truly ready for him.

If you want a relationship, focus on yourself. Stop saying that you want a boyfriend, a girlfriend or a significant other. That special someone will come as soon as you stop searching…that is how it always happens!

Falling in Love is always accidental…

-Pinkspen

I had someone tell me to add my personal experiences to this post, so I did. We can all learn from one another…this is part of my story. I’m sure everyone has more than one story of how they met someone thay they fell in love with. LADYHOOD is a journey that never ends. Let’s  support, empower, challenge, and learn from one another. 

SINGLE

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