5 Pressurizing Standards of Beauty

Popular culture has placed a lot of pressure on how to look, feel, and act a certain way. Not conforming to the standard of beauty, can be one of the most difficult tasks for women. 

Self-doubt seem to be inevitable when all we see is airbrushed and filtered women on every billboard, magazine cover, music video, and every social media profile picture. 

We verbally and internally body shame ourselves which blemishes and scars self-love.

The pressure is in abundance, and we practically kill ourselves with plastic surgery, implants, tanning, and skin bleaching just to fit into that standard. We think that if we look a certain way we will feel a certain way. These horrible habits that we have adopted to try to fit-in, do not cure low self-esteem. 

Self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love start within. You have to love yourself, flaws and all. There is not enough plastic surgery and Botox in the world to give you high self-esteem.

I reblogged this post because women need to understand that they are beautiful regardless of shaving, contour, bumps and blemishes, stretch marks, muffin tops, or having perfect nails and hair.
We are all beautiful and when self-love is a priority, confidence becomes your standard of beauty.

-Pinkspen

LipstickForLunch

As a person who writes about beauty products on a regular basis, I feel that it is my responsibility to speak about the darker aspects of this world as well. Beauty standards all around the globe are becoming more and more unforgiving by the minute, making it painfully hard for women to feel confident in their own skin. Of course, in an ideal world, everyone should be brave enough to embrace their “flaws” but constant scrutiny at a microscopic level can make the strongest succumb to the pressure. Here are 5 beauty standards that I would banish from the face of the planet if I had supernatural powers (until then, this blog will have to suffice).

1. Greasy roots – So many women feel obliged to wash their hair more often than they want, just to avoid showing up at work with those darned greasy roots. This makes for an…

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Everything in Moderation: the story of a thick girl

​I always wanted an hour-glass figure. It was all I could think about. I would binge exercise and go on diets for months at a time.

I spent so much time in the gym imagining how I would look with that figure. I day-dreamed that if I was shaped like a Coke bottle, I would walk the streets, like a runway, and Beyoncé all over everyone. 

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How Do I Stay So Skinny?

As a thick girl (defy the word fat), I have always considered the struggle of women who are overweight, but never considered a skinny girls’ journey with weight. 

I have been told by doctors that it is not healthy for me to be the weight that I am for my height. Do I agree? Yes. Why? It is more important to be healthy than it is to be comfortable

I re-blogged this post because the author opened my eyes to the fact that even the skinniest of people feel offended and insecure about the comments made about their bodies. 

We need to be careful of what we say, and be mindful that our personal envy does not eliminate the other persons insecurities.

We are all beautiful and need to start viewing ourselves as just that! Becoming healthier, just makes you that much more beautiful! 

Pinkspen

Typically, Tierra

This morning I walked into my classroom holding a bagel with cream cheese, totally normal. A coworker loudly asked “Tierra how do you stay so skinny?” With a mouthful of bagel I replied “I just do.”

So you’re probably thinking “so what, that’s a compliment” but I disagree. Would you go up to someone overweight and ask them “hey, how do you stay so fat?” You wouldn’t because that would be rude, right? But how is fat any different than skinny?

All my life I’ve been the skinny one and all my life I have hated it. Being skinny doesn’t feel beautiful to me; I feel self-conscious, the same way an overweight person might. I feel like I have to cover up certain parts of my body because they’re like sticks to me. I’ve always been self-conscious of my height and weight.

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Get Your Body Back Foolishness: the story of a thick girl

 

​I remember struggling with my weight when I was in high school; that was over 10 years ago, and I am still struggling.

After I gave birth to my daughter, that struggle did not get any easier. I was breastfeeding and did not want more children anytime soon, so to avoid lowering my milk production, I was prescribed the mini-pill as the only form of birth control that I could take.

I gained 50 lbs. in 2 months

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Why I prefer to take the stairs

Healthy wellness is a journey…. it is not a sprint, it is a marathon. In the past, I have jumped into full work out plans and diets; I was unsuccessful. 

For some, jumping into a workout may be beneficial, but for me it never helped me change my lifestyle. Eventually, I gave up, binged, and had to start all over again in my weight loss journey.

Making small steps towards your weight loss journey can help you focus on the little things and eventually, the little things become habitual.

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A Healthy Mind: the story of a thick girl

In the past, I have spent so much time disliking my weight and parts of my body. I still have my moments, where I think this way. I think we all do sometimes. 

Even with this struggle, it is important to always grow, learn, and try to be better every day. 

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Uniqueness is Beauty

Everyday we struggle with our identity; constantly trying to define ourselves, until we are truly comfortable with who we are.

But, does that ever really happen?

Are we ever truly happy with who we are?

I know that there have been times in my life when I was not happy with how I looked. In this judgmental society, that feeling can last for a long time.

We are surrounded with images of what “beauty” is and this can cause self-doubt, low self-esteem, poor values, and depression.

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Thin vs. Fat BIAS

I am in the process of receiving my Strengths-Based Family Workers (SFW) Credential and was asked to, “Identify a bias you have,” for an assignment.

Racial biases are embedded in most of us since childhood. I aware of this racial bias, and it is easy to think more positively of your own racial group, than for another. Outside of race, it was difficult for me to think of any biases I had…

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