Can I just say that I appreciate all of you bloggers!!!! This WordPress community is amazing. I have reached 2,000 views this month and it is all because of all of you!! 🤗

Thank you to every blogger that follows me! All 400+ of you!!! You all believe in my mission to uplift women! You support me, challenge me, and inspire me! I cannot thank you enough!!!! 😚

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I Am Thankful For the Tag


This is my first tag, and I would like to thank Sheetal Bhardwaj who has been an active supporter of my blog and an uplifting writer and fellow blogger. I am truly inspired by her voice, words, tone, and willingness to share her insight, praise, and admiration with others. Please take the time to visit her blog The Glitters of Life and be inspired as well.

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Sunshine Blogger Award

I am overwhelmed with the idea that someone thinks I deserve to receive this award. This is the 2nd award that I have received in my blogging career, and I feel so honored! I cannot believe “a girl named Kirtihas nominated me for the Sunshine Blogger Award. Please check out her blog. She is such a strong writer; she’s real, open-minded, creative, and of course inspiring. Thank you so much Kirti for considering me for this award.

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Blogger Appriecation  

I am seven away from having 1,000 views for the month of February! 😆This has been the most views, in a month, that my blog has received. 😄 

I am so honored to be a part of this community, and I want to thank every follower and the entire WordPress blogging community for the views, likes, comments and reblogs! 😊

It means more to me than any of you know! 

-Pinkspen 🤗

Lies that side-chicks will hear today…

You see, what had happened was…

My phone broke, was lost, or dead.

I didn’t have any reception.

My car wouldn’t start…

I had to work overtime.

…the way my account is set up… (Kevin Hart voice)

I got stuck in a ditch!

…I had to go to the hospital!

I was planning to celebrate with you this weekend…

My friend got arrested, so I had to bail him out of jail!

I have the stomach flu.

I twisted my ankle.

My dog died.

When I got home from work I was so tired, I fell asleep..

I decided to spend Valentines Day with my mom.


If you heard any of these excuses for not be showered with love on Valentine’s Day, you might be a side-chick!


Never play second best to any other woman. You deserve to be a priority, not an option! A man should shower you with love daily, but at least, on Valentine’s Day!




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Call me a F***** Lover

Anyone that reads my blog, knows that I a pro-equality… there are so many advocates that only support or fight against the concerns that they feel are important. I love a good advocate, because we all have concerns that we feel strongly about, whether its lead in the water, the #blacklivesmatter movement, poor education systems, poverty…

But, how can you fight for equality, if you consider some concerns, and yet, dismiss others as unacceptable? (That is an alternative fact!)

The equality for all who identify as LGBTQIAP+ is a cause that is just as important as any other, and should be fought for by those with privilege (heterosexuals).

Anyone can fight for what they support or agree with… that is easy!

But, you cannot aim to fight for true equality, if you shun, judge, and speak discriminating biases against individuals that are different than you!

“Equality means, equality!” -Pinkspen

I read a post yesterday evening that completely disturbed me…

I was and still am so disappointed that someone could be so simple-minded, belittling, and ignorant. This post, “I will not apologize to faggots” (Oh, how I hate that word, which is why I used * in my title)was a slap in the face to anyone in the LGBTQIAP+ community and to anyone who supports them. The slurs, judgement, and violent descriptions of how gays should feel about themselves, is a clear depiction of why suicide rates are so high for members of the LGBTQIAP+ community.


Australian Human Rights Commission 

This blogger referred to members of the LGBTQIAP+ community as:

“damn butt pluggers…”

“Those nasty ass no account, filthy, shit smelling faggots should be disrespected…”

“disgusting, vile and filthy degenerates…”

“rejects from hell…”

“sick fucks…”

Saying that who they are is “sick ass, twisted shit!”

When it came to being discriminated against, she stated, “Those immoral freaks of nature are the last things slithering that’s deserving of an apology, despicable abominations!”

But, here is the quote that got me boiling… I wanted to reach through my screen…

“You honestly want everyone who is not down with your lifestyle choices to apologize to you if we so much as look cross-eyed at your nasty ass? Well, beg me to apologize to you useless fucks and please hold your breath until I do because that way, you’d all be dead because you’d turn blue and keel over before I’d ever apologize for a goddamn thing I say about you or to you.” 

In response to a comment someone made about offending someone with this post, the writer stated, ignorantly,“If they don’t like what they see here and if they are faggot lovers, then they can just ‘unfollow’ me and get ta steppin’! By now, everyone who steps foot up in here know my feelings or lack thereof over those detestable creatures. And I hope like hell I offended some filthy ass butt pokers, I hope I did ’cause I’m hoping they hold their breath while awaiting an apology. They some dead motherfuckers if they is!! LOL!!”  

What a bigot!

On behalf of my friends that are gay, on behalf of every young boy and girl struggling with determining their sexuality, and on behalf of the entire LGBTQIAP+ community, I am so sorry that people are ignorant… that they do not see, that the words they use, hurt. They are so caught up in the way society views LGBTQIAP+ and what they think the right form of sexual identity is, that they target your lifestyle as, incorrect! They treat you like you are not a human, just like them….

A human with rights…

a human that loves…

a human that feels pain…

a human that just wants to be treated as an equal.

I read that post over 10 times, since last night. As a black woman, I decided to take out the word faggot, and replace it with nigger, to see if the content of her piece would change… it made me feel the same way. So many claim that they are pro-equality or that they aim to bring social issues to the forefront, but in reality, they are bigots!

A strong part of me wanted to HYPERLINK the post, but I do not want to give them anymore views than they already have, and I certainly do not want her post associated with my site. If you choose to read it, (the title is above), please be advised that you may feel hurt after. You may become angry… I posted the statements in her post, previously, because I felt that those of us with privilege, forget what people have to deal with on a day-to-day basis because of discrimination (I do not aim to offend anyone, and I apologize if I did), so I wanted to remind them.

Please know that you are beautiful, handsome, intelligent, proud, bold, passionate, and so strong to stand up for your rights, the rights of others, and for what is right, equality! Never stop fighting, and never let someone tell you that you are less than because of how you live your life.

Read my post, It’s not a choice… where I speak out against why, who we are attracted too and who we love, is not a choice. I hope that you feel the love pouring out of my words, and once again I apologize for the disrespect of a fellow blogger.

Here are some other motivational and uplifting posts that I hope can lift your spirits through the negativity of this world!


Self-Love Quotes

Please do not stop advocating for those who are being discriminated against.




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a few of my favorite things…

Watching the sunrise …

Sipping a Chai Tea Latte…

spooning in bed…

Listening to Coldplay

a porch swing…or laying in a hammock…

Driving on a open road…

my daughters smile…

Blowing out birthday candles…

the smell, after a rainstorm…

pictures with family & friends…

Riding a bike…

a waterfall…

catching snowflakes…

Reading Maya Angelou

anything Chocolate…

a full moon…

Seeing the stars, outside the city…


Singing opera with friends…

a hot bubble bath…

writing poetry…

a glass of red wine…maybe two…

These are a few of my favorite things! 

It is important to take the time to appreciate the little things. What are a few of your favorite things? 



via Daily Prompt: Simple

“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.” -Confucius

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