5 Pressurizing Standards of Beauty

Popular culture has placed a lot of pressure on how to look, feel, and act a certain way. Not conforming to the standard of beauty, can be one of the most difficult tasks for women. 

Self-doubt seem to be inevitable when all we see is airbrushed and filtered women on every billboard, magazine cover, music video, and every social media profile picture. 

We verbally and internally body shame ourselves which blemishes and scars self-love.

The pressure is in abundance, and we practically kill ourselves with plastic surgery, implants, tanning, and skin bleaching just to fit into that standard. We think that if we look a certain way we will feel a certain way. These horrible habits that we have adopted to try to fit-in, do not cure low self-esteem. 

Self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love start within. You have to love yourself, flaws and all. There is not enough plastic surgery and Botox in the world to give you high self-esteem.

I reblogged this post because women need to understand that they are beautiful regardless of shaving, contour, bumps and blemishes, stretch marks, muffin tops, or having perfect nails and hair.
We are all beautiful and when self-love is a priority, confidence becomes your standard of beauty.

-Pinkspen

LipstickForLunch

As a person who writes about beauty products on a regular basis, I feel that it is my responsibility to speak about the darker aspects of this world as well. Beauty standards all around the globe are becoming more and more unforgiving by the minute, making it painfully hard for women to feel confident in their own skin. Of course, in an ideal world, everyone should be brave enough to embrace their “flaws” but constant scrutiny at a microscopic level can make the strongest succumb to the pressure. Here are 5 beauty standards that I would banish from the face of the planet if I had supernatural powers (until then, this blog will have to suffice).

1. Greasy roots – So many women feel obliged to wash their hair more often than they want, just to avoid showing up at work with those darned greasy roots. This makes for an…

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What can you do when people make you feel ugly?

We live in a very judgmental and critical world. A world that wants each of us to fit into a certain “standard of beauty.” If your body is not a certain shape, if your hair and nails are not perfect, if you contour is not just right, we skip over your pic on FB or IG as if you are not just as beautiful as the rest of the world.

It is difficult to feel beautiful in this world, and even those who we would consider to be the most beautiful, still have insecurities.

We all doubt ourselves. At times, we even try to be someone else, but what this world really needs is an overdose of self-love. Bullies need self-love and the victim of bullying needs self -love.

Learning to love yourself, your body, your face, your personality, is a journey and should be based on you, and no one else.

It is difficult not to care what others think, but when you begin to love yourself, that is when you feel your most beautiful.

I reblogged this post because the speaker provides ways to cope with feeling ugly because of others and their impact on our self-esteem, confidence, and having healthy body-image.

I hope this blog helps someone who is struggling with feeling like they are not enough.

You are enough. You are beautiful!

-Pinkspen

Freshly Brewed Content

Trolls.

Nope I’m sorry it’s not about the movie “Trolls” (how can such happy little colorful trolls who sing and hug do any kind of damage right?) Instead I’m talking about the 21st century nick-name for people who hate on others for no obvious reason.

I still cannot get over the fact that we live in a world where “trolling” is apparently of the norm and we just have to “suck it up” or rant about them on some online platform. I don’t mind taking the high road most of the times but an important thing to keep in mind here is to set a realistic limit to all this trolling. There’s only so much criticism you can take from someone other than you right? Now when I use the word “Trolling” dear friends kindly do not think that having the title of a “friend”, “boyfriend” or “family member” would give…

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No Makeup Mondays Challenge 

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TOMORROW IS MEMORIAL DAY & and Week 4 of LADYHOOD journey‘s No Makeup Mondays Challenge 💋

It is important to LADYHOOD journey, LLC to shine a light on defying the standard of beauty, that we must wear makeup daily to be beautiful! It is easy to develop an addiction when wearing makeup daily; you begin hating your natural face.

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Internalized Racial Beauty-Shaming 

I love the infinite shades of a woman’s skin. 

There are so many different pigments and highlights; all are beautiful. From pink pale to blue-black, every shade should be uplifted for its uniqueness, not broken and shamed. 

As a Black woman, I cannot ignore the Memes and cyber bullying against women who are dark-skin. 

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How Do I Stay So Skinny?

As a thick girl (defy the word fat), I have always considered the struggle of women who are overweight, but never considered a skinny girls’ journey with weight. 

I have been told by doctors that it is not healthy for me to be the weight that I am for my height. Do I agree? Yes. Why? It is more important to be healthy than it is to be comfortable

I re-blogged this post because the author opened my eyes to the fact that even the skinniest of people feel offended and insecure about the comments made about their bodies. 

We need to be careful of what we say, and be mindful that our personal envy does not eliminate the other persons insecurities.

We are all beautiful and need to start viewing ourselves as just that! Becoming healthier, just makes you that much more beautiful! 

Pinkspen

Typically, Tierra

This morning I walked into my classroom holding a bagel with cream cheese, totally normal. A coworker loudly asked “Tierra how do you stay so skinny?” With a mouthful of bagel I replied “I just do.”

So you’re probably thinking “so what, that’s a compliment” but I disagree. Would you go up to someone overweight and ask them “hey, how do you stay so fat?” You wouldn’t because that would be rude, right? But how is fat any different than skinny?

All my life I’ve been the skinny one and all my life I have hated it. Being skinny doesn’t feel beautiful to me; I feel self-conscious, the same way an overweight person might. I feel like I have to cover up certain parts of my body because they’re like sticks to me. I’ve always been self-conscious of my height and weight.

Now you’re probably thinking “how is…

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Uniqueness is Beauty

Everyday we struggle with our identity; constantly trying to define ourselves, until we are truly comfortable with who we are.

But, does that ever really happen?

Are we ever truly happy with who we are?

I know that there have been times in my life when I was not happy with how I looked. In this judgmental society, that feeling can last for a long time.

We are surrounded with images of what “beauty” is and this can cause self-doubt, low self-esteem, poor values, and depression.

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