Happy and Healthy: the story of a thick girl

I have a Pinterest board, I NEED TO WORK THE F’ OUT that I created over 5 years ago, when I was in college.

I had the want and the desire to be healthy, but I did not have drive to get my body to where I wanted to be. 

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Depressed Love 

It breaks my heart that I cannot make you feel better…that I cannot take away the pain, hurt, and anger. 

The rollercoaster of emotions has embedded our hearts, for I have adopted your pain. 

When I speak, I feel like my words are wrong… sometimes it feels like my support does not help, instead it hurts.
You want to stay in; I want to go out

You want to be alone; I want to be around friends and family. 

You don’t want to talk about it; I want to give advice and help.
I am constantly questioning my actions to not upset you. It can be exhausting, but I do it because I love you.

I want you to see your worth, and know that you mean the world to me. 

I have been by your side and on your team from the beginning, and I don’t want that to change, but before we break one-another down, we need a change, or we will never be able to build each other back up.

Your words hurt sometimes, and even though I know you do not mean it, I can’t help but to feel like a target and take it personally. 

Not knowing what to say or what to do is an understatement, because sometimes, I have completely given up on trying… but, I always come back because I know you can get through this….

Forgive me for giving up in those moments….

-Pinkspen 💋

If you or a loved one are struggling with depression and want some information on how to support them and yourself, please read the article, Helping Someone with Depression: What You Can Do to Support a Friend or Loved One’s Recovery. I hope this article helps you find your self-worth, value, and gain perspective on the importance of self-care and self-love when dealing with depression. 

Internalized Racial Beauty-Shaming 

I love the infinite shades of a woman’s skin. 

There are so many different pigments and highlights; all are beautiful. From pink pale to blue-black, every shade should be uplifted for its uniqueness, not broken and shamed. 

As a Black woman, I cannot ignore the Memes and cyber bullying against women who are dark-skin. 

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About: Leading Lady Campaign

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The Leading Lady Campaign seeks to empower women and girls to defy obstacles, self-doubt, and fear so they can reach their dreams. The Campaign will shine a light on those women who are making their mark in the professional and social world.


LADYHOOD journey believes in promoting, highlighting, and uplifting women who are making their mark in this world. As women, we all have a journey. We share commonalities and differences, but to every woman and girl, “your journey, is our journey.” We are in this together and we should always try to work together and learn from one another.

The Leading Lady Campaign will highlight women who are Mompreneurs, Professional Bloggers, small business owners, CEOs and Founders, master’s students’, and up-and-coming career women. LADYHOOD journey would like to thank these role models, leaders, scholars, motivators, innovators, and mentors to young women and in their communities. You are a #ladyboss and we apprieciate you for uplifting young women to be the best verisons of themselves. 

The #LeadingLady Campaign will kick off in June 2017.  See you then! 

 

How Do I Stay So Skinny?

As a thick girl (defy the word fat), I have always considered the struggle of women who are overweight, but never considered a skinny girls’ journey with weight. 

I have been told by doctors that it is not healthy for me to be the weight that I am for my height. Do I agree? Yes. Why? It is more important to be healthy than it is to be comfortable

I re-blogged this post because the author opened my eyes to the fact that even the skinniest of people feel offended and insecure about the comments made about their bodies. 

We need to be careful of what we say, and be mindful that our personal envy does not eliminate the other persons insecurities.

We are all beautiful and need to start viewing ourselves as just that! Becoming healthier, just makes you that much more beautiful! 

Pinkspen

Typically, Tierra

This morning I walked into my classroom holding a bagel with cream cheese, totally normal. A coworker loudly asked “Tierra how do you stay so skinny?” With a mouthful of bagel I replied “I just do.”

So you’re probably thinking “so what, that’s a compliment” but I disagree. Would you go up to someone overweight and ask them “hey, how do you stay so fat?” You wouldn’t because that would be rude, right? But how is fat any different than skinny?

All my life I’ve been the skinny one and all my life I have hated it. Being skinny doesn’t feel beautiful to me; I feel self-conscious, the same way an overweight person might. I feel like I have to cover up certain parts of my body because they’re like sticks to me. I’ve always been self-conscious of my height and weight.

Now you’re probably thinking “how is…

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How to Maintain a Happy Long Distance Relationship

My article How to Maintain a Happy Long Distance Relationship has been published on College Mate by Alexis Chateau, PR !!!!

Maintaining a LRD can be difficult and college life does not make that any easier. Learning ways to keep the spark when you are miles away from each other is possible, despite the odds.

Please view the original post to support me and learn ways to maintain your relationship, long distance.

I love and appreciate all of you fellow bloggers and readers; hopefully you will provide me with your feedback on the original postLooking forward to talking to you about your LDRs. 

-Pinkspen

COLLEGE MATE

Relationships are tough; adding distance to the mix doesn’t make them any easier. It’s hard enough to trust the partner you live with. Imagine trusting the one who lives a world away.

Because of this, some may say that long distance relationships don’t work. But the truth is, all relationships take effort. Some just take a little more than others.

Are you dating someone who is already in college? Is your significant other not going to college, but you are? Are you and your high school sweetheart going to different colleges?

If so, here are four ways to maintain a happy relationship while you’re apart.

Communication is Key

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It’s not always easy to keep up with everything that goes on in each other’s lives, but making the time to talk without distraction is an important part of making it work.

This doesn’t have to mean talking on the phone multiple times…

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Why I prefer to take the stairs

Healthy wellness is a journey…. it is not a sprint, it is a marathon. In the past, I have jumped into full work out plans and diets; I was unsuccessful. 

For some, jumping into a workout may be beneficial, but for me it never helped me change my lifestyle. Eventually, I gave up, binged, and had to start all over again in my weight loss journey.

Making small steps towards your weight loss journey can help you focus on the little things and eventually, the little things become habitual.

I re-blogged this post because little things like taking the stairs are small steps toward a Happy and Healthy life.

  • Love your body as it is now.
  • Make small changes in your unhealthy habits. 
  • Have a Happy and Healthy journey to wellness by changing the way you think about weight loss. 

-Pinkspen

The Lean, Mean, Sexy Machine

As a normal woman with a full-time deskbound job, office hours are very sedentary. Sitting for hours compresses our spines, leading to backaches and shoulder stiffness. In order to avoid this, it’s good to get up and stretch. I also like adding a little movement by taking the stairs instead of the elevator whenever I need to go upstairs.

Besides giving us the opportunity to lengthen our spines, climbing stairs is widely touted as a good cardiovascular activity. Google the benefits and you’ll find pages and pages of articles! Since the office elevators move like turtles anyway, I can get where I want more quickly by taking the stairs.

Stair climbing and power walking were the first exercises I started with during this health journey. Today, I still do both to satisfy my need to move and stay active. I encourage friends and relatives to do them since they don’t…

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No. Cut Him Off.

Every woman deserves to feel wanted. If you do not fee wanted, then you are not. If you doubt that he loves you, he probably doesn’t. As the author stated so plainly “Love is not complicated.”

Check out more from Alice in Wonderlust on dating and relationships. 

Alice In Wonderlust | UK Dating Blog

So you match with this guy on Tinder. His chat is pretty decent, so you meet up for a drink. Instant connection. You go home with butterflies in your stomach. You fall into a pattern of seeing each other once of twice a week. It’s all going well. It’s like you’re going out, but neither of you has brought up “what you are” yet. After 2 months, you raise the question. He says he’s not really sure yet, and needs more time to decide. So you give him time. After 3 months, you raise the question again. He says he’s still not sure. You start to feel a little irked. I mean, it’s been 3 months. You’re sure. So why isn’t he? You wonder whether you should just sit out. Maybe 3 months is too soon. Maybe after 4, he’ll realize how great you are and make it official. Or…

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