Internalized Racial Beauty-Shaming 

I love the infinite shades of a woman’s skin. 

There are so many different pigments and highlights; all are beautiful. From pink pale to blue-black, every shade should be uplifted for its uniqueness, not broken and shamed. 

As a Black woman, I cannot ignore the Memes and cyber bullying against women who are dark-skin. 

Although this infuriates me, it also makes me question, how we as Black women allow this form of internalized racism to continue?

How could a black woman bully another black woman because her skin tone is darker? 

How can you hate your own race?

This concern is deeply rooted in African-American history. During slavery, slave masters’ purposefully placed Africans in certain positions based on their skin tone. House slaves had typically had a lighter skin toneand darker slaves worked the fields. 

Our generations have come and gone, and yet we continue to perpetuate the idea that one shade is better than the other. 

Defy the bias that being dark skin means being less-than or ugly.

Now, we are using social media as an outlet for bullying. 

I have seen countless Memes that target dark-skin women, saying that they are ugly, look like roaches or ants; are less-than compared to light skin Black girls

Being color blind is a myth… 

We cannot help but to see color, but we can see the value in every shade and defy discrimination and bullying against those who are a different skin color or shade than your own. 

Place value on the multiple shades within your own race by uplifting, supporting, and educating yourself and others on your biases and their own. 

Be an advocate for change and stop internalized racial beauty-shaming. 

Love every shade, including your own! 

Pinkspen 💋

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About: Leading Lady Campaign

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The Leading Lady Campaign seeks to empower women and girls to defy obstacles, self-doubt, and fear so they can reach their dreams. The Campaign will shine a light on those women who are making their mark in the professional and social world.


LADYHOOD journey believes in promoting, highlighting, and uplifting women who are making their mark in this world. As women, we all have a journey. We share commonalities and differences, but to every woman and girl, “your journey, is our journey.” We are in this together and we should always try to work together and learn from one another.

The Leading Lady Campaign will highlight women who are Mompreneurs, Professional Bloggers, small business owners, CEOs and Founders, master’s students’, and up-and-coming career women. LADYHOOD journey would like to thank these role models, leaders, scholars, motivators, innovators, and mentors to young women and in their communities. You are a #ladyboss and we apprieciate you for uplifting young women to be the best verisons of themselves. 

The #LeadingLady Campaign will kick off in June 2017.  See you then! 

 

#NoMakeupMondays 

Beginning Monday, May 8-June 24, I will be hosting the challenge, No Makeup Mondays.  

Challenge Purpose:

Frequent use of makeup can become an addiction. You begin to hate the way you look without wearing it. The LADYHOOD journey brand wants women of every shade, race, sexual orientation, age, religion, socio-economic class, and culture to feel that they are naturally beautiful… 

This challenge will uplift, strengthen, and give confidence to women and girls through active self-love, by taking away one-day of wearing makeup. This can help women love what popular culture defines as a flaw.

LADYHOOD journey wants all women to feel beautiful while not wearing makeup.

To Join:

You can go to my FACEBOOK page @Ladyhoodjourney, @ladypinkspen on TWITTER, @pinkspen on INSTAGRAM and post a selfie wearing no makeup every Monday for the next 12 weeks, with the hashtag #NoMakeupMondays 


Love Yourself! You are beautiful with or without makeup! Let your natural beauty shine!

-Pinkspen 💋

How Do I Stay So Skinny?

As a thick girl (defy the word fat), I have always considered the struggle of women who are overweight, but never considered a skinny girls’ journey with weight. 

I have been told by doctors that it is not healthy for me to be the weight that I am for my height. Do I agree? Yes. Why? It is more important to be healthy than it is to be comfortable

I re-blogged this post because the author opened my eyes to the fact that even the skinniest of people feel offended and insecure about the comments made about their bodies. 

We need to be careful of what we say, and be mindful that our personal envy does not eliminate the other persons insecurities.

We are all beautiful and need to start viewing ourselves as just that! Becoming healthier, just makes you that much more beautiful! 

Pinkspen

Typically, Tierra

This morning I walked into my classroom holding a bagel with cream cheese, totally normal. A coworker loudly asked “Tierra how do you stay so skinny?” With a mouthful of bagel I replied “I just do.”

So you’re probably thinking “so what, that’s a compliment” but I disagree. Would you go up to someone overweight and ask them “hey, how do you stay so fat?” You wouldn’t because that would be rude, right? But how is fat any different than skinny?

All my life I’ve been the skinny one and all my life I have hated it. Being skinny doesn’t feel beautiful to me; I feel self-conscious, the same way an overweight person might. I feel like I have to cover up certain parts of my body because they’re like sticks to me. I’ve always been self-conscious of my height and weight.

Now you’re probably thinking “how is…

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No. Cut Him Off.

Every woman deserves to feel wanted. If you do not fee wanted, then you are not. If you doubt that he loves you, he probably doesn’t. As the author stated so plainly “Love is not complicated.”

Check out more from Alice in Wonderlust on dating and relationships. 

Alice In Wonderlust | UK Dating Blog

So you match with this guy on Tinder. His chat is pretty decent, so you meet up for a drink. Instant connection. You go home with butterflies in your stomach. You fall into a pattern of seeing each other once of twice a week. It’s all going well. It’s like you’re going out, but neither of you has brought up “what you are” yet. After 2 months, you raise the question. He says he’s not really sure yet, and needs more time to decide. So you give him time. After 3 months, you raise the question again. He says he’s still not sure. You start to feel a little irked. I mean, it’s been 3 months. You’re sure. So why isn’t he? You wonder whether you should just sit out. Maybe 3 months is too soon. Maybe after 4, he’ll realize how great you are and make it official. Or…

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I have been published!!! 

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Hello to my fellow bloggers and to the 400+ followers who have taken the time to check out my blog, keep in touch, and support my dreams….

College Mate has published my article “Decoding the Bro Code: One Night Stand or Long Term Girlfriend?” for their March Monthly Writing Contest (please go to COLLEGE MATE to learn more).

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Decoding the Bro Code: One Night Stand or Long-term Girlfriend?

I am overjoyed about COLLEGE MATE publishing my article for their March Monthly Writing Contest.

Please check out my article, Like, Share, Comment, Re-blog!!!!!
I seek to uplift, empower, and challenge women to be the best versions of themselves. 

College life is difficult for relationships and helping college freshman females to navigate through the differences between a FWB or a real intimate relationship, is my goal!

These are the signs to look out for if a guy just wants you as a Friend With Benefits…

COLLEGE MATE

I started college with big expectations of college guys. Most of those expectations were based on what I knew about high school boys; and college boys were supposed to be even better! I fully expected to find my college sweetheart, and live “happily ever after”.

Instead, what I found was that most college guys had one goal: to get you in bed. They would use every pick-up line, and give every compliment, just to trick you into  dropping by their dorm room to “watch a movie.” 

I found myself repeating this cycle until one day, I had to face the truth. I cried as I looked at myself in the mirror, and realized I was still single and lonely. I wanted a boyfriend, not casual sex.

Ladies, don’t be fooled, as I was. As freshman females, you are the fresh meat on a college campus.

College guys love to check out the new…

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