Happy and Healthy: the story of a thick girl

I have a Pinterest board, I NEED TO WORK THE F’ OUT that I created over 5 years ago, when I was in college.

I had the want and the desire to be healthy, but I did not have drive to get my body to where I wanted to be. 

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28 Reasons on my 28th birthday 

There are so many reasons for me to be grateful for the last 28 years. I have decided to focus on those things and the people in my life that make life so great! On your birthday, make a list of what and who you are grateful for! 

Here are the 28 Reasons why 28 years have been so amazing: 

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Depressed Love 

It breaks my heart that I cannot make you feel better…that I cannot take away the pain, hurt, and anger. 

The rollercoaster of emotions has embedded our hearts, for I have adopted your pain. 

When I speak, I feel like my words are wrong… sometimes it feels like my support does not help, instead it hurts.
You want to stay in; I want to go out

You want to be alone; I want to be around friends and family. 

You don’t want to talk about it; I want to give advice and help.
I am constantly questioning my actions to not upset you. It can be exhausting, but I do it because I love you.

I want you to see your worth, and know that you mean the world to me. 

I have been by your side and on your team from the beginning, and I don’t want that to change, but before we break one-another down, we need a change, or we will never be able to build each other back up.

Your words hurt sometimes, and even though I know you do not mean it, I can’t help but to feel like a target and take it personally. 

Not knowing what to say or what to do is an understatement, because sometimes, I have completely given up on trying… but, I always come back because I know you can get through this….

Forgive me for giving up in those moments….

-Pinkspen 💋

If you or a loved one are struggling with depression and want some information on how to support them and yourself, please read the article, Helping Someone with Depression: What You Can Do to Support a Friend or Loved One’s Recovery. I hope this article helps you find your self-worth, value, and gain perspective on the importance of self-care and self-love when dealing with depression. 

Everything in Moderation: the story of a thick girl

​I always wanted an hour-glass figure. It was all I could think about. I would binge exercise and go on diets for months at a time.

I spent so much time in the gym imagining how I would look with that figure. I day-dreamed that if I was shaped like a Coke bottle, I would walk the streets, like a runway, and Beyoncé all over everyone. 

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Internalized Racial Beauty-Shaming 

I love the infinite shades of a woman’s skin. 

There are so many different pigments and highlights; all are beautiful. From pink pale to blue-black, every shade should be uplifted for its uniqueness, not broken and shamed. 

As a Black woman, I cannot ignore the Memes and cyber bullying against women who are dark-skin. 

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a Mother’s Day Love Letter 

To my dearest child,

I could not see you smile, hear you laugh, or hold you in my arms, but I loved you in the womb. 

You came into this world a surprise to mommy, but it was a beautiful surprise….

The first time I held you, we cried together as you immediately latched to my breast. 

Seeing you smile, makes me smile. 

Hearing you laugh, makes me laugh. 

From your first words to your first steps, I fall more-and-more in love with you.

You are the greatest Mother’s Day gift! I will love you forever, entirely.

Your mother,

-Pinkspen 💋

Becoming a mom was and is the best part of my life. Is it tough? Yes! Do I get frustrated? Yes! Would I have it any other way? Not for anyone or anything in this world. 

About: Leading Lady Campaign

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The Leading Lady Campaign seeks to empower women and girls to defy obstacles, self-doubt, and fear so they can reach their dreams. The Campaign will shine a light on those women who are making their mark in the professional and social world.


LADYHOOD journey believes in promoting, highlighting, and uplifting women who are making their mark in this world. As women, we all have a journey. We share commonalities and differences, but to every woman and girl, “your journey, is our journey.” We are in this together and we should always try to work together and learn from one another.

The Leading Lady Campaign will highlight women who are Mompreneurs, Professional Bloggers, small business owners, CEOs and Founders, master’s students’, and up-and-coming career women. LADYHOOD journey would like to thank these role models, leaders, scholars, motivators, innovators, and mentors to young women and in their communities. You are a #ladyboss and we apprieciate you for uplifting young women to be the best verisons of themselves. 

The #LeadingLady Campaign will kick off in June 2017.  See you then! 

 

How Do I Stay So Skinny?

As a thick girl (defy the word fat), I have always considered the struggle of women who are overweight, but never considered a skinny girls’ journey with weight. 

I have been told by doctors that it is not healthy for me to be the weight that I am for my height. Do I agree? Yes. Why? It is more important to be healthy than it is to be comfortable

I re-blogged this post because the author opened my eyes to the fact that even the skinniest of people feel offended and insecure about the comments made about their bodies. 

We need to be careful of what we say, and be mindful that our personal envy does not eliminate the other persons insecurities.

We are all beautiful and need to start viewing ourselves as just that! Becoming healthier, just makes you that much more beautiful! 

Pinkspen

Typically, Tierra

This morning I walked into my classroom holding a bagel with cream cheese, totally normal. A coworker loudly asked “Tierra how do you stay so skinny?” With a mouthful of bagel I replied “I just do.”

So you’re probably thinking “so what, that’s a compliment” but I disagree. Would you go up to someone overweight and ask them “hey, how do you stay so fat?” You wouldn’t because that would be rude, right? But how is fat any different than skinny?

All my life I’ve been the skinny one and all my life I have hated it. Being skinny doesn’t feel beautiful to me; I feel self-conscious, the same way an overweight person might. I feel like I have to cover up certain parts of my body because they’re like sticks to me. I’ve always been self-conscious of my height and weight.

Now you’re probably thinking “how is…

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