Why Are You Single?

Recently someone asked me, why are you single? Although I have been asked this question before, this time I immediately became irritated. I don’t believe that anyone means any harm when asking this question, but this time hearing it made me feel exposed. One of my deepest fears is loneliness, and it has been something I have struggled with for as long as I can remember. In the past, being single made me feel like there was something wrong with me, but guess what? There is nothing wrong with being single!

Singleness is not a curse.

Self-love has taught me the value of self-reflection and why it matters in healing from past relationships and moving forward. Self-reflection is an active form of self-care (one aspect of self-love) and has allowed me to think back on my past choices and see how I got to be a single-mother and why it’s nothing to be ashamed of.

I am single for all the right reasons.

Being ashamed of being single is no more. I am prioritizing my damn self by embracing this time in my life and seeing it as an opportunity. I am accepting my imperfect and seeking growth within myself so that one day, I will attract a healthy relationship and not another toxic one. So here it is, here are all the reasons that I am single, so everyone can stop asking:

I am single because I was afraid of being alone.

I am single because I didn’t listen to God the fourth time.

I am single because I was sick of being the only one fighting for my relationship.

I am single because I ignored every red flag.

I am single because now I know that my heart matters more.

I am single because I deserve to be trusted, valued and appreciated.

I am single because I needed more than a good roommate.

I am single because I know my worth.

I am single because I refuse to fill my bed with a body just to have company.

I am single because I stopped lying to myself about being happy in my relationship.

I am single because no man is worth being abused.

I am single because I am not someones verbal punching bag.

I am single because I am listening to my heart.

I am single because I want to make my daughter proud.

I am single because I choose peace.

I am single because I stopped settling.

I am single because I am a badass mother who is finally showing up for herself.

2018 © Ta’lor L. Pinkston

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9 thoughts on “Why Are You Single?

  1. It’s not a curse to be single. Yes ooo…i refuse to give my body to any Tom, Dick and Harry, to eliminate the so called stigma of being single. I am single because I know my worth and all that God has invested in me to be an asset, and I wouldn’t throw myself at a man who wouldn’t recognise and appreciate that value in me….

    1. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 you just gave me life!!!!!! Yasssssss exactly love

      1. My dear, it’s not easy to stay single, esp when everyone seems to be getting married, even those younger than me, however, some ppl are going through what no human being should go through,right from the wedding day n some, even few days to the D-day, so what are we are talking about? It is well. God is helping us😘😘🤗

  2. Yes ma’am! There is nothing wrong with being single. I’m enjoying this time to myself, because when that man does come around, I’ll be ready. Great post!

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