Being bullied verbally bullied in Elementary and Middle School completely altered my relationships with my family and friends without my knowledge. I did not connect my isolation, insecurities, and lack of trust in people with those who had bullied me in my childhood. My experience with bullying was something that I kept hidden and never really talked about until about three years ago when I struggled with depression while pregnant with my daughter.
I was speaking to a counselor while pregnant about my support systems and she helped me uncover some of the pain that I buried inside about my relationships. After my depression faded, over the next year I had the opportunity to focus on self-reflection as I began making self-love my priority. I discovered that the effects of bullying had caused me to distrust others.
My “friends” were my bullies.
I recognized that I struggled to believe that any of my friendships were genuine. I never fully believed that my friends had my best interests at heart or that they would not belittle or betray me like my bullies did. It finally made sense to me why I have always been in-and-out of friendships. I have had long-lasting romantic relationships but very few friendships have lasted for more than a few years.
I was allowing my bullies to keep me from long-lasting relationships with other women.
National Bullying Prevention Month 2018
The entire month of October is dedicated to preventing harassment and bullying across the United States.
“NATIONAL BULLYING PREVENTION MONTH IS A CAMPAIGN IN THE UNITED STATES FOUNDED IN 2006 BY PACER’S NATIONAL BULLYING PREVENTION CENTER. THE CAMPAIGN IS HELD DURING THE MONTH OF OCTOBER AND UNITES COMMUNITIES NATIONWIDE TO EDUCATE AND RAISE AWARENESS OF BULLYING PREVENTION.” PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center
Children who experience bullying can suffer with emotional, behavioral, and social detrimental effects. According to stopbullying.gov, kids who are bullied, are more likely to experience “health complaints… decreased academic achievement, depression and anxiety, increased feelings of sadness and loneliness, changes in sleep and eating patterns…loss of interest in activities they used to enjoy…they are more likely to miss, skip, or drop out of school. ” Some of these concerns can persist for the individual as they grow into adulthood.
“A VERY SMALL NUMBER OF BULLIED CHILDREN MIGHT RETALIATE THROUGH EXTREMELY VIOLENT MEASURES. IN 12 OF 15 SCHOOL SHOOTING CASES IN THE 1990s, THE SHOOTERS HAD A HISTORY OF BEING BULLIED.” STOPBULLYING.GOV
This year, participate in Unity Day; on Wednesday, October 24th by wearing ORANGE and be an advocate for bullying prevention.
“Come together in one giant ORANGE message of hope and support, WEAR and SHARE ORANGE to color our nation, and even the world, visibly showing that our society believes that no child should ever experience bullying.” PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center
On Unity Day, and throughout the entire month of October, raise your voice on social media and in your community. If you are interested in sharing your story with bullying, please visit PACER’s platform HERE, and join me in wearing orange to show you support kids and adults that are being affected by bullying.
LADYHOOD journey focuses on women empowerment by helping women fall in love with themselves and prioritizing Healing Over Everything™. Through Self-love Life Coaching and our FREE virtual support group, The H.O.E. Truth, we hope to empower every woman, girl, and transgender female to defy fear, doubt and insecurities in every stage of their journey.
I created the #YOUBULLIEDME Challenge when I became aware that my childhood experience with bullying was impacting the relationships in my adult life in a negative way.
No matter the frequency, depth, or duration of the bullying, it can impact you for the rest of your life. I desire to help bring healing to those who have suffered from bullying and to prevent others from being bullied in school, at home, at work, and also on social media. I hope you make the choice to help me raise the awareness on the impact bullying by sharing your story and your truth.
How To Participate in #YOUBULLIEDME
Throughout the month of October 2018 there will be a daily prompt to respond to posted on Social Media. Each prompt will also available here on the LADYHOOD journey website (Instructions: go to ladyhoodjourney.com – go to the Menu – under the Blog Tab click Healing Over Everything – click #YOUBULLIEDME).
You can respond to prompts in a journal or on any social media platform and post your comments and answers by tagging @ladyhoodjourney and using the hashtag #YOUBULLIEDME.
All are welcome to participate in this challenge. This is a safe-space. I will be transparent and also participate in this challenge along with you. I cannot wait to connect and grow with you.
Share your truth. Share your story.
What To Expect:
- #YOUBULLIEDME Blog Post for days 1-15 (posted October 1, 2018)
- #YOUBULLIEDME Blog Post for days 16-31 (posted on October 14, 2018)
- All prompts will be posted daily on LADYHOOD journey social media accounts beginning late evening on October 1, 2018 Facebook: @ladyhoodjourney and Instagram: @ladyhoodjourney