Fat and Sick of the Body-Shaming Bullshit

I am sick of wearing baggy clothes to hide my full-figure.

I am sick of being forced to walk to the back of a store to find anything in my size. 

*It makes me feel like I am living in the 1950s and walking to the back of the bus  … maybe we need to boycott stores like Dr. Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks.

I am sick of feeling ashamed of my stretch marks.

I am sick of being told I am “pretty for a big girl.”

I am sick of fashion brands that do not make clothes for my size.

I am sick of commercials and fashion brands that only promote thin chicks.

I am sick of fat-shamers saying “big-girls shouldn’t wear crop tops or leggings”

*Don’t tell me what the f*** to wear!!!

I am sick of ordering salads while skinny girls inhale burgers and fries.

*Don’t tell me what the f*** to eat!

I am sick of pulling my shirts down all day to hide my foopah.

I am sick of being told to “suck it in” every time I take a picture.

I am sick of feeling insecure around anyone smaller than me. 

I am sick of brands who make cute clothes for juniors and wack shit for plus-size women. 

*Really? I can’t look cute because I’m plus-size?

I am sick of hiding from mirrors because I don’t want to see my cellulite.

I am sick of wearing waist trimmers. 

*SCREAMING “THEY HURT!”

I am sick covering my stretch marks with foundation and concealer. (smdh)

I am sick of body-shaming myself out of going where I want and wearing what I want. 

 

© 2018 Ta’lor Pinkston, LADYHOOD journey, LLC

15 thoughts on “Fat and Sick of the Body-Shaming Bullshit

  1. Thank you for this post. I am a mother of three an constantly shame myself for all the perfect imperfections my body how has. It’s easy to forget how much our body does for us and how underappreciated it is. You reminded me right now to love my saggy-breastfeeding-3babies-boobs. Thanks to that my children were fed. <3

    1. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 love it. I breastfeed too so I can relate to the boobs and I love mine too. I have been going braless a lot lately. It feels good

  2. Ditto and bravo!!!
    I’m sick of being told ” I don’t like girls with short hair but I guess it looks good on you” Like who even asked you!!!!!
    And the commercials. I want to rip through the screen on the victoria’s secret. My daughter is 21 and she said ” who are they making this commercial for? Not me!” Exactly because we’d like to see how that bra looks in a shirt and do the straps show in a tank top, etc. not half naked girls that have starved themselves wearing a bra two sizes too small.
    Excellant post. Got me all worked up and jumping on the band wagon! We need another Rosa Parks. I was recently asked if I could meet top two people..well that would be hard.. Maya Angelo, Rosa Parks, Hellen Keller, oh so many strong women!

    1. 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 yasssss! Thank you for this loves. Thank you for sharing that with me. I just joined a body-posi group in my city called YINZ BOPO and we have been opening up the dialogue about some of the struggles we have in accepting our bodies. I think it’s so important to talk about it. It brings healing. Appreciate you loves

      1. It wasn’t until I embraced my body and loved it that I could overcome the eating disorder contributing part to the ups and downs and changes in my body. I had control issues and was using food for that. Learning to love myself inside and out was a huge step for me in letting go of the need to control my body and just let it be for what it is.
        It is so healing to talk about!
        Awesome you are in body pos group. That’s so great!
        I also had to let go of the man aspect of what they liked ” I only like…” part of what men say and discover ok what do I LIKE and then be ok with that and embrace that without the influence of a man’s thinking. That felt empowering

  3. So proud of you for creating this. I feel so fed up also hiding parts of my body that needs more support from me. This post definitely is relatable. Love you sister 😀

    1. Love you too sis. Thank you so much for reading. I think many of us feel or have felt like this and it’s time to bring it to light

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