I am always busy. I am a mother of a 2-year-old, so toddler-mom life always keeps me on my toes. Between work, blogging, taking care of my home, managing my Facebook group, weekly Twitter Chats, and building my Self-love Shop, it’s so difficult to find the time to focus on me…
Self-love is a requirement.
I have learned that by taking small steps in my self-love journey, I am able to focus on all of the pieces of self-love as if to practice adding them into my daily routine. Even if it’s just for 10 minutes a day, it has become important to me to take of the one human who is taking care of everyone and everything else in my life, ME.
Our quality of care for others decreases when our self-care is not a priority.
What is Self-love?
According to Christine Arylo, Best Selling Author of Madly in love with Me, and the Founder of the Path to Self-love,”There are 10 branches of self-love – AND you need ALL 10 + the roots to be strong” (What is Self-love). Christine helps others to focus on the 10 branches of self-love which are all rooted in embracing your self-worth:
- Self-compassion & forgiveness
- Self-honor & respect
Self-care is #1 in Self-love
I am not sure if self-care is listed first for a specific reason, but I believe it is. As women and mothers, we spend so much time taking care of everyone but ourselves.
“Give yourself what you need, without guilt… (self-care)” -Christine Arylo
I believe that self-care is of most importance in self-love because we can truly care for the people we love by taking care of our mind, body, and soul. By actively focusing on self-care, we are showing our children the importance of taking care of themselves and we are learning our own self-worth.
Self-care for Beginners
If you are beginning a self-love journey, like me, start by focusing on your self-care first. There are so many ways to practice self-care but often times, the lists of options can be so extensive and specific that it can seem overwhelming, so start small, be patient with yourself, and do not ever feel guilty for focusing on self-care.
It is never selfish to add yourself into your priorities.
If you are looking for ways to get started, be spontaneous. You can make a plan, but sometimes planning ahead is not always possible. Get out of your comfort zone and try to do one thing FOR YOU every day.
Here are some great tips to help you begin making self-care a priority:
- Mental Self-care:
- Read a book
- Turn off your phone for an hour
- Color (coloring with your kids is the best)
- Listen to podcasts on self-love, self-care, and self-esteem
- Emotional Self-care:
- Start a Gratitude Journal
- Call your best friend
- Write down positive affirmations on post-it notes and stick them all over your house
- Practice deep breathing exercises (Check out my blog post The 4-7-8 (Relaxing) Breathing Exercise)
- Physical Self-care:
- Have a dance party for yourself (allow the kids to join in as well)
- Take a long, hot bubble-bath
- Stretch your body
- Take a nap