Self-love begins with Self-care

I am always busy. I am a mother of a 2-year-old, so toddler-mom life always keeps me on my toes. Between work, blogging, taking care of my home, managing my Facebook group, weekly Twitter Chats, building my brand, and being a working mom, it’s so difficult to find the time to focus on me. 

Self-love is a requirement. 

I have learned that by taking small steps in my self-love journey, I am able to focus on all of the pieces of self-love as if to practice adding them into my daily routine. Even if it’s just for 10 minutes a day, it has become important to me to take of the one human who is taking care of everyone and everything else in my life, ME. 

Our quality of care for others decreases when our self-care is not a priority.

What is Self-love? 

According to Christine Arylo, Best Selling Author of Madly in love with Me, and the Founder of the Path to Self-love,”There are 10 branches of self-love – AND you need ALL 10 + the roots to be strong” (What is Self-love). Christine helps others to focus on the 10 branches of self-love which are all rooted in embracing your self-worth: 

  1. Self-care
  2. Self-awareness
  3. Self-acceptance
  4. Self-trust
  5. Self-esteem
  6. Self-compassion & forgiveness
  7. Self-empowerment
  8. Self-expression
  9. Self-honor & respect
  10. Self-pleasure 

Self-care is #1 in Self-love

I am not sure if self-care is listed first for a specific reason, but I believe it is. As women and mothers, we spend so much time taking care of everyone but ourselves. 

“Give yourself what you need, without guilt… (self-care)” -Christine Arylo 

I believe that self-care is of most importance in self-love because we can truly care for the people we love by taking care of our mind, body, and soul. By actively focusing on self-care, we are showing our children the importance of taking care of themselves and we are learning our own self-worth.

Self-care for Beginners 

If you are beginning a self-love journey, like me, start by focusing on your self-care first. There are so many ways to practice self-care but often times, the lists of options can be so extensive and specific that it can seem overwhelming, so start small. 

If you are looking for ways to get started, be spontaneous. You can make a plan, but sometimes planning ahead is not always possible. Get out of your comfort zone and try to do one thing FOR YOU every day. 

Here are some great tips to help you begin making self-care a priority:

  • Mental Self-care: 
    • Read a book
    • Turn off your phone for an hour
    • Color (coloring with your kids is the best) 
    • Listen to podcasts on self-love, self-care, and self-esteem 
  • Emotional Self-care: 
    • Start a Gratitude Journal 
    • Call your best friend
    • Write down positive affirmations on post-it notes and stick them all over your house
    • Practice deep breathing exercises (Check out my blog post The 4-7-8 (Relaxing) Breathing Exercise)
  • Physical Self-care:
    • Have a dance party for yourself (allow the kids to join in as well)
    • Take a long, hot bubble-bath 
    • Stretch your body 
    • Take a nap 
Ta'lor Pinkston

Hey beautiful! I am Ta'lor Pinkston, MSW|founder of LADYHOOD journey, LLC|Women’s Inspirational Self-love|Poet|Prospective Self-love Coach|Feminist|Equality Advocate|Women’s & Family Therapist LADYHOOD journey, LLC focuses on helping college girls, mothers, and every woman to incorporate self-love into their lifestyle. The topics discussed include Women's Empowerment, Beauty Standards, Body Love, Equality, Mommyhood, and Healthy Relationships. I want women and all my readers to leave my site feeling inspired, uplifted, supported, and empowered in every stage of life. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Tea , sitting on my porch, trying new wines, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, SZA, Pentatonix, H.E.R, Alessia Cara, Sabrina Claudio, Jhene Aiko, Frank Ocean, Coldplay, and Kings of Leon.

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