Positive Vibes Only

I love thrift shopping. It is nostalgic and one of my favorite past-times. I even love the smell (is that weird?). Its not just about the bargain for me, its about recycling and cutting down on unnecessary waste. My favorite is Red White Blue thrift because everything is organized by color.

In the section filled with an array of random paintings, posters, and picture frames, I came across a vinyl painting with motivational sayings that uplifted me as soon as I read the first line.

After spending my $2, I rushed home to hang my new painting on my wall.

Every morning, I make sure that I read the words and remind myself to live positively in all that I do, to have positive people around me, and do show positive vibes to others.

Here are the #positivevibes that we all should learn to live by:

1. Be kind.

Treat others the way you would want to be treated.

No matter if they reciprocate the kindness. Try to be more of a giver than a taker. Volunteer, give to the less-fortunate, donate your time and money to those in need, when you can. 

Forgive those that hurt you. Do not hinder your blessings by being petty.

2. Work hard.

What you put out, is what you will get back.

If you work hard at whatever you do, you will reap the benefits of success.

Work hard to be your best as a student, a mother, business woman, lady blogger, entrepreneur, or as a woman. 

Anything that takes effort is worth having. Don’t be afraid to work hard. 

3. Stay humble.

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We all know being cocky is not an attractive trait. There is nothing wrong with being confident, but if you spend the majority of the time discussing how great you are, you risk losing people in your life.

4. Don’t worry.

Not worrying is almost impossible, but it is something we all should learn to master. There are just some things that are out of our control, and the less we worry, the less stress we put on our minds and bodies.

According to The American Institute of Stress, here are some of the symptoms associated with stress:

  • Chest pain, palpitations, rapid pulse
  • Diminished sexual desire or performance
  • Excess anxiety, worry, guilt, nervousness
  • Increased anger, frustration, hostility
  • Depression, frequent or wild mood swings
  • Increased or decreased appetite
  • Weight gain or loss without diet
  • Increased smoking, alcohol or drug use
  • Excessive gambling or impulse buying
  • Insomnia, nightmares, disturbing dreams
  • Forgetfulness, disorganization, confusion

5. Smile often.

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Smiling more helps reduce stress. According to NeuroNation, smiling can affect you brain in a positive way:

Smiling activates the release of feel-good-messengers that work towards fighting stress [3]. These messengers help you experience a whole range of emotions, from happiness to sadness, anger to depression. When a smile flashes across your face; dopamine, endorphin’s and serotonin are all released into your bloodstream, making not only your body relax but also work to lower your heart rate and blood pressure. Endorphin’s are natural painkillers – 100% naturally produced by your own body, without the negative effects of medication [4].

[3] Seaward BL. Managing Stress: Principles and Strategies for Health and Well-Being. Sudbury, Mass.: Jones and Bartlett; 2009:258

[4] R.D. (2000). Neural correlates of conscious emotional experience. In R.D. Lane & L. Nadel (Eds.), Cognitiveneuroscience of emotion (pp. 345–370). New York: Oxford University Press.

6. Stay loyal.

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Every woman knows a girl out there that is willing to cheat on her lover. Cheaters never win! You may not believe in karma like I do, but you should believe in energy.

Negative energy produces negative energy.

If you are thinking about cheating on the person you are in a relationship with, end it with them, regardless of how difficult that may be. If you don’t want to be with them and them alone (unless you have an open-relationship) end it!

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Be a #leadinglady in everything you do. A leading lady, like a #ladyboss is a woman who is always working hard at building her life and career. She is a leader, a motivator, innovator, and someone that definitely pursues excellence. She has faults just like any other woman, but she is constantly pushing to be better. 

It is all about the journey. I do not always win but I constantly pursue excellence.

I am perfectly imperfect and proud of it. 

Ladyhood journey’s monthly Campaign, “Leading Lady” seeks to highlight women at every stage of the journey toward success, in hopes of empowering every woman to defy fear, doubt and insecurity so that they too can reach their dreams. The Campaign will jump off at the end of July 2017. To learn more, visit Leading Lady Campaign page.

8. Be honest.

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Telling the truth is not just for the other person, it is for you too. Holding on to a lie causes guilt, and guilt causes stress. Women and stress do not mix together well. Make it a goal to be a honest and positive person for yourself and your health.

 

9. Travel when possible. 

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Traveling makes a individual a well-rounded person. It is also a great way to escape everyday life and relax. Vacations are a great way to build your self-love and regroup to face whatever goes on in your home, work, and personal life. (When my daughter is a little older, going on vacations is something I definitely want to do)

According to Adam Siddiq in his article 9 Wonderful Benefits of Traveling, taking the time to get away can help you experience more joy in your life: 

  1. You’ll find a new purpose
  2. You’ll appreciate your home more
  3. You’ll realize that your home is more than just where you grew up
  4. You’ll realize how little you actually knew about the world
  5. You’ll realize that we all share similar needs
  6. You’ll realize that it’s extremely easy to make friends
  7. You’ll experience the interconnectedness of humanity
  8. You’ll experience serendipity and synchronicity
  9. You’ll realize life is a wonderful gift 

Life is all about the journey. 

10. Never stop learning. 

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It is so easy to get comfortable and complacent in our thoughts. By actively learning, we can expand our way of thinking in business, socially, emotionally, and physically.

If you are thinking about taking a course for fun, traveling abroad, going to college, getting your GED, getting a master’s degree or gaining a credential, take the risk yourself.  

Be a life long learner.  

11. Be thankful.

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Back in March 2017, I started a gratitude journal that I published: 

We get so tied up into our stress with family, our relationship, our kids, friends, and work that we forget to be thankful for the blessings that life brings. 

Giving thanks is what keeps me humble and grounded in those moments that really matter. 

 12. and Love.

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Women are full of love. I spent years loving on everyone but myself. I am a natural nurturer. I give to others and put myself last and then I get fed up and blow up. 

When we are not focused on self-love, we lose ourselves. We have to make sure that we make ourselves a priority too. You cannot show love in a healthy way if you do not love yourself. 

Balance making time for yourself and others around you.

Make self-love a priority. 

-Pinkspen

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Ta'lor Pinkspen

Welcome ladies and gentlemen! This is Ta'lor Pinkspen, BA|MSW|SFW, Inspirational Blogger for women, Poet, Prospective Self-love Coach, Feminist, Equality Advocate, and Women & Family Therapist My blog focuses on Women's Empowerment, Beauty Standards, Body Positivity, Motherhood, Healthy Relationships, College girls and Equality. LADYHOOD journey seeks to uplift all women and promote self-love. LADYHOOD journey challenges social concerns like body shaming, beauty standards, racial and gender discrimination, in order to empower women to be advocates and to incorporate self-love into their journey. I want women and all my readers to leave my site feeling uplifted, supported, and empowered in every stage of life. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Chia Tea or Iced Coffee, sitting on my porch while drinking a glass of dry red wine or dark beer, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, SZA, Pentatonix, H.E.R, Alessia Cara, Sabrina Claudio, Jhene Aiko, Frank Ocean, Coldplay, and Kings of Leon.

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