A Healthy Mind: the story of a thick girl

In the past, I have spent so much time disliking my weight and parts of my body. I still have my moments, where I think this way. I think we all do sometimes. 

Even with this struggle, it is important to always grow, learn, and try to be better every day. 

My health and wellness journey is like the Autobahn in Germany; never-ending and with no speed limit.

There has been no consistency in my journey, and that changed about a month ago when I heard about the benefits of drinking Apple Cider Vinegar (it is slowly changing my life). 

In a blog contribution, I submitted, 3 Big and Timely Lessons that Being Insecure Taught Me, published by Precious, on her site Rock Your Reality (please check out her website and be empowered as a strong “Girl Boss”), I disclose some of my journey in overcoming my insecurities with my weight.  

I have always been a thick girl. I actually love my curves, but I used to hate my chubby belly and chunky arms. I would religiously wear body-shapers, to look a certain way.  After giving birth to my daughter, I gained weight, and entered the 200 lb. club. In my mind, I expected that I would get my body back immediately. Of course it takes time to lose weight and so the process didn’t go as expected. As a result, there are times when I hate what I see in the mirror. At some point I realized that I was body shaming myself.Rock Your Reality

It is still a part of my journey to realize that I have to change my frame of mind before I can change my body.

Learning to love my body for what it is now, is the first step to a healthy, health and wellness journey.

I am constantly reminding myself to do the following, in order to maintain positive wellness:

  • Focus on being healthy instead of losing weight.
  • Say five things I love about myself every day.
  • Focus on the things I love about my body when I look into the mirror.
  • Step away from the scale.
  • Take baby steps; not jump into a diet head first.

A healthy mind, is a positive mind. A positive mind leads to a Happy and Healthy body.

To those of you who are struggling with their weight:

  • Been heavier all your life
  • Just had a baby
  • Gained the freshman fifteen
  • Binge eat due to depression and anxiety
  • Are taking birth control
  • Have a sweet tooth

You can have all that you want if you change your mindset. 

  • Learn to love your body for how it looks now. 
  • Don’t be afraid to talk about it your struggles with your body image
  • Speak kindly about yourself (read my post Anti-Body Shaming).
  • Find small ways to be active and eat better; healthy habits. 
  • Do not doubt yourself. 
  • Defy insecurities 
  • Understand that you are beautiful just as you are.

If you start by changing why you see a negative image when you see yourself, then you can begin working on reaching your goal weight and maintain a healthier lifestyle. 

Here are some small ways “baby steps” that I have incorporated healthier habits into my daily routine: 


  • Drinking Apple Cider Vinegar Water
    • In a mason jar, add apple cider vinegar/1 tbsp. (with the mother), honey/2 tbsp., 4 lemon slices, [crush it all together] pour spring water  to the top of jar; SHAKE and serve [drink 2x daily after a meal]
      • You can add Cheyenne Pepper, Strawberries, Blueberries, Mint, Cucumber and any other fruits and veggies to add to the taste. 
  • Taking the stairs instead of elevators and escalators 
  • Wearing layers of clothing when I clean up my house
  • Completing The 4-7-8 (Relaxing) Breathing Exercise 
    • Inhale for 4 seconds 
    • Hold for 7 seconds
    • Exhale for 8 seconds 
      • repeat 4x in a row/2x daily 

These all have helped me feel better, and are not drastic life changes. I am more motivated and uplifted about taking care of my body for myself and my daughter.

Having positive health and wellness is a journey, and we can take that journey, together by changing our minds

Any questions or comments are welcome and can be made below!

Tell me about your journey.



What is to come:

I will continue to post about my health journey, the hidden secrets about being overweight, and how having a positive mind-frame changes your health, wellness and weight loss. 

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Ta'lor Pinkston

Hey beautiful! I am Ta'lor Pinkston, MSW|founder of LADYHOOD journey, LLC|Women’s Inspirational Self-love|Poet|Prospective Self-love Coach|Feminist|Equality Advocate|Women’s & Family Therapist LADYHOOD journey, LLC focuses on helping college girls, mothers, and every woman to incorporate self-love into their lifestyle. The topics discussed include Women's Empowerment, Beauty Standards, Body Love, Equality, Mommyhood, and Healthy Relationships. I want women and all my readers to leave my site feeling inspired, uplifted, supported, and empowered in every stage of life. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Tea , sitting on my porch, trying new wines, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, SZA, Pentatonix, H.E.R, Alessia Cara, Sabrina Claudio, Jhene Aiko, Frank Ocean, Coldplay, and Kings of Leon.

12 thoughts on “A Healthy Mind: the story of a thick girl

  1. Reblogged this on College and Life After and commented:
    Originally Posted by Pinkspen, whom is becoming my spirit animal. This piece really resonated with me mentally and emotionally. If you are like me and have difficulties of keeping yourself positive as you struggle through your weight journey, read this.

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  2. That was beautiful, thanks so much for sharing with us ❤ I had a similar battle with weight, although I was obsessed with losing. I wanted to be thin and small, because I thought that small was beautiful. My weight was the only thing I could control in life because I was doing so much to please others. It honestly felt like it was the only thing; counting calories, restricting intake and exercising insanely. I did not see it as a problem until I was in my late teens, it wasn't right and I wasn't getting enough nutrients that my body needs to grow so I stopped. It's a long story but, I realised that I needed the nutrients to be healthy. I could no longer restrict my intake. I started eating regular healthy meals.

    Thanks so much for sharing again!! 🙂

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    1. Thats amazing that you were able to recognize the needed change. I believe in everything in moderation, and that is why I am making small changes because in the past i jumped into diets and it did not change my lifestyle. It is all about the journey…not a sprint but a marathon. Thank you for reading A, i always do appreciate your kind words and feedback!

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      1. I honestly had to recognise the change otherwise I would continue to harm myself. The key word you mentioned is moderation. Thats so important!! thanks so much for sharing, its my pleasure 🙂 A x

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