Uniqueness is Beauty

Everyday we struggle with our identity; constantly trying to define ourselves, until we are truly comfortable with who we are. But, does that ever really happen? Are we ever truly happy with who we are?

I know that there have been times in my life when I was not happy with how I looked. In this judgmental society, that feeling can last for a long time. We are surrounded with images of what “beauty” is and this can cause self-doubt, low self-esteem, poor values, and depression.

Have you noticed that everyone that has had plastic surgery, no matter their race, look alike?

They really do… because they are trying to make themselves fit into a certain mold, when in reality, they were all beautiful before their procedure.

…the price of fame…

There are so many doing anything possible to look perfect! It is heartbreaking, because this causes every girl next door or average looking girl (whatever that means), which is most of us, to feel that they need to get plastic surgery to fit into the standard of beauty. 

‘Without surgery you are not beautiful,’ is the message this sends.

For those that can’t afford plastic surgery, they desperately seek out funding to support an unnecessary procedure to “fix” themselves…

Plastic surgery should not be the cure for low self-esteem.

Confidence is internal, and no external procedure is going to give you true confidence yourself because in the end, we are get older and our skin will sag. Plastic surgery cannot prevent this. Will you be confident with how you look as you age?

Life happens; the media, popular culture, the “standard of beauty” in America, have caused us to hate what we see in the mirror looking back at us. I believe that our confidence and self-esteem levels are like riding a roller-coaster … constant ups and downs… we may never be completely happy with who we are or what we look like, but it is more important to focus on your journey of loving who you are, bettering yourself every day, and spreading love to those around you!

We all have imperfections, but you have to find the beauty in your flaws because they are what make you unique.

uniqueness = beauty

 

© 2018 Ta’lor Pinkston, LADYHOOD journey, LLC


“The hardest battle is to be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else.” -E. E. Cummings.

32 thoughts on “Uniqueness is Beauty

  1. Interesting post! It’s true that there seems to be pressure in most places around the world. I live in Brazil right now around and bum/ boob implants and nose jobs are fairly common. It’s not really surprising when everyone on the TV is ‘beautiful’ and pretty surgically enhanced (and often white, which isn’t representative of the population as a whole at all).

    1. Yes…the standard is different and yet the same. A hierarchy of beauty….it really is sad that surgery and implants means beauty…… thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts!!!

    1. Yes yes yasss!!! We all need to love ourselves a little more and a little better. Appreciate those things that the world calls flaws! Thanks for reading and for the kind words!

  2. A great post, truly inspiring!! 😊💖 What could have been a matter of ‘CHOICE’ is now the ‘RULE’. And most people go under knife not because they really want to, but to meet up to that standard rule of ‘flawless beauty’. But they fail to understand that if they are not confident about their own body, they could never be happy with any amount of plastic surgery unless they change their mindsets. I would surely want you to read this blog post which tells the story of famous Indian actor Sonam Kapoor and how she dealt with this body shaming issue in her own life. I loved it!!
    https://lovereaddream.wordpress.com/2016/10/06/i-didnt-wake-up-like-this-sonam-kapoor-for-buzzfeed/

    1. Thank you Kirti! It is so sadly true. The mindset must change. Plastic surgery will just become an addiction as you age. That’s inevitable right? We all get older and once you start Botox, or getting face lifts, it is hard to stop because you are use to seeing yourself look a certain way…… I can leave the house without wearing makeup because I appreciate my face as it is. I wear make up, yes, but I don’t need to wear it all the time.
      Great insight! I will definitely check out post! Thank you for sharing it with me!

  3. I ❤ it! Thank you for addressing these issues. Indeed they were beautiful and unique prior to the plastic surgery- It is just sad now hey.

    1. Thank you for reading bafikile. Correct! Agreed 100%!!! Definitely sad…. what’s sadder is the poor trying to fit into this standard…Jamaicans bleaching their skin….its sad

  4. You really nailed it. And my goodness, why would we want to look the same??? Right! Tired of all the stars in Thailand looking cookie cutter!

    1. You speak truth. I think it is like that everywhere. Every culture has a standard of beauty that everyone is trying to fit into. It’s a sad reality. I am sick of the fake boobs, butt, and penciled in eye brows here in America!!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to read! Love your feedback too! 🤗

  5. Great points! I think what’s most important to realize is that we will never be happy with our appearance until we are happy with who we are as people, and we gain confidence in ourselves. You could get all the surgeries in the world and still feel you’re not enough if you have low self esteem, because at the end of the day the problem is not your exterior but how you see yourself. It’s also true that self love is a never ending journey, its better to live life than stress out about ideals of perfection when our thoughts, feelings and those same ideals change with time anyway!

  6. Very true, it is sad that so many good looking people are not comfortable in their skin. There can’t be just one definition of beautiful, it is high time the world realizes that!

  7. Yes, everyone starts looking the same. The same noses, the same eyebrows. I haven’t really paid attention lately. I listen to a lot of children’s music and so I’m behind the times. I had no idea Lil Kim made such a drastic change. Wow! Some are allowing popular culture to define beauty.

    1. Thanks for reading. It is definitely a reality. So sad. I just want every girl to feel beautiful. The bullying through Memes and the standard that if you are not fair skinned, you are not beautiful …. has to go.

  8. Absolutely wonderful! You’ve stated that so beautifully! Living in today’s society it’s so important that this is addressed, many are suffering and battling, trying to fit into the ‘beauty standard ‘

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