As a parent, I know what it is like to have someone judge, criticize, or comment on your parenting style. It’s irritating.
What really grinds my gears, is when someone that does not have children try to provide their insight or advice on parenting…
Although, I feel that no one has the right to judge someone’s parenting, unless they are physically, mentally, or emotionally harming child, there are those things that truly upset me that some parents do!
Attention Parents, there are 5 things we need to stop doing:
1. Stop smoking around your kids!
Your child’s quality of life is more important than your addiction!
The health concerns of Second Hand Smoke are factual. Alongside this reality, when a child sees their parents smoking they (how much more) are more likely to become a smoker themselves!
Secondhand smoke causes numerous health problems in infants and children, including more frequent severe asthma attacks, respiratory infections, ear infections, and sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).
Smoking during pregnancy results in more than 1,000 infant deaths annually.
Some of the health conditions caused by secondhand smoke in adults include coronary heart disease, stroke, and lung cancer.
2. Don’t put Pepsi, coffee, Kool-Aid, or any sugary, caffeinated, or carbonated beverage, in your toddler’s bottle or Sippy cup!
I cannot explain how upset I get when I see a mother put soda in a babies bottle! Talk about grind my gears... Not only are sugary beverages bad for a child’s teeth, it is bad for their skin, and their healthy eating habits. If they are use to drinking and eating sugary items, they will not appreciate the taste of an apple, carrot, or a pear. It is heartbreaking.
In both kids and adults, too much caffeine can cause:
jitteryness and nervousness
increased heart rate
increased blood pressure
I know soda is cheap… it is definitely cheaper than juice, bottled water, and milk, but please, do not give your child something so unnatural!
3. Don’t put gel in your infants hair!
Here is a list of typical ingredients in hair gel:
WATER (AQUA), SORBITOL, VP/METHACRYLAMIDE/VINYL IMIDAZOLE COPOLYMER, POLYSORBATE 20, CARBOMER, PANTHENOL, PANTOLACTONE, ISOPROPANOLAMINE, BENZOPHENONE-4, DMDM HYDANTOIN, IODOPROPYNYL BUTYLCARBAMATE, TROMETHAMINE, C12-15 ALKYL BENZOATE, PHOSPHOLIPIDS, HYDROLYZED OAT PROTEIN, PHOSPHOROUS, MAGNESIUM ASCORBYL PHOSPHATE, CALCIUM PANTOTHENATE, MAGNESIUM SALICYLATE, ZINC GLUCONATE, FRAGRANCE (PARFUM), HEXYL CINNAMAL, LINALOOL, BUTYLPHENYL METHYLPROPIONAL.
1. PARABENS: They’re in adult and baby shampoo and many other products, and they are estrogen mimickers that can lead to cancer.
2. FRAGRANCE: The FDA requires that food, drug, and body care companies list their ingredients on their products—but chemicals used to scent products can be clumped under the vague term “fragrance.” Found in everything from shampoo to deodorant, a single product’s secret fragrance mixture can contain potentially hundreds of toxic volatile organic compounds.
3. NANOPARTICLES: Found in lotions, moisturizers, make-up, and particularly sunscreen, these untested ingredients are so small, many scientists are very concerned about their potential health effects, as they can penetrate cell walls and are highly reactive. Products with nanoparticles aren’t often labeled as such, so check your conventional body care products at CosmeticDatabase.org or NanotechProject.org/inventories/consumer/.
4. FORMALDEHYDE: A common hardener in nail polish and an ingredient in bath products, this chemical is a known carcinogen. Nail polish also often contains the developmental toxicant TOLUENE.
5. PHTHALATES: These hormone disruptors have been linked to male genital abnormalities, liver and kidney lesions, and higher rates of childhood asthma and allergies. They’re often hidden in the fragrances of an array of products for men, women, and children, and listed as DIBUTYL PHTHALATE in nail polish.
6. PETROLEUM BY-PRODUCTS: Listed as mineral oil, petrolatum, liquid paraffin, toluene, or xylene, these chemicals are found in a dizzying number of products, including many shampoos and soaps. Of most concern is the fact that they are often contaminated by cancer-causing impurities like 1,4 DIOXANE, which is a probable carcinogen. Industry has done very little to prevent such contamination.
7. TRICLOSAN: A primary ingredient in anti-bacterial soaps and products, triclosan has been linked to hormone disruption and the emergence of bacteriaresistant “superbugs.”
8. LEAD: It’s a potent neurotoxicant, and it’s been found in several popular brands of lipstick and men’s hair coloring kits.
9. MERCURY: A neurotoxicant that can severely damage human health, mercury— often listed as “thimerosol”—is still used in some cosmetics like mascara.
Most of us have no idea what any of these ingredients are in most of the cosmetic items we use. Doing the research to determine what each ingredient is and if it is cancer causing, can be exhausting. I have tried to look some ingredients up, and even those definitions are difficult to understand. Using organic products is a great way to ensure your child’s’ safety from toxins.
There are companies that provide organic, non-allergenic, chemical and pesticide-free, hypoallergenic, and all-natural products with ingredients that are non-toxic, including:
“Babyganics, Shoosha Baby, Earth Mama Angel Baby, Baby Pibu, Honest Company, Jack N’ Jill, Lice Knowing You, Weleda and MINU,” to name a few!
Please check out Urban Sitter for more information.
In order to protect your children, use products that have non-toxic ingredients. Hair gel dries the hair, makes it crunchy, and breaks it off. Research alternative products to use that can mold, and keep hair in place.
4. Stop putting make-up on infants & toddlers!
Wearing makeup at a young age can send the message that wearing makeup is beautiful and without it, you are not beautiful. A child’s self-esteem is the essence of youth. Their imagination, the possibilities, naivety, these are all qualities that are destroyed by body shaming and body image concerns.
I remember when I was a little kid and putting on makeup was just something I played around with. I’d grab the pink bag containing the “dress up” cosmetics from my mom’s dresser and enthusiastically do my face over with pink eye shadow and red blush before combing my eyebrows and eyelashes with the designated brushes. Every morning, I’d watch my mom work with her “grown up” makeup as she put on her eyeliner, mascara and foundation, and I’d imagine myself doing the same many years later. Even as I played dress up with my friends, I couldn’t picture them using real makeup of their own until they were actually moms themselves. Little did I know how much of a sway the beauty industry and society would have on them and the generations after us.
Before, it was popular for kids to be sporting the latest flavor of Lip Smacker, but today, I’m seeing a trend of girls who prefer to wear what I call “the mask,” a layering of makeup (thin or thick) that, if removed, would reveal a different face underneath. Now I’m not saying that I’m against makeup all together; I think there are many girls my age who wear makeup appropriately and look very nice in it. The problem I see lies in the reason some girls, especially tweens, choose to wear makeup.
Whenever a 12-year-old girl walks by wearing mascara, eye liner, eye shadow, foundation and lip gloss, I wonder why someone so young would feel the need to dress up her face on a daily basis. I still recall being confused about the matter when the girls around me progressively put on more makeup throughout the years of middle school, as if their bare faces weren’t adequate enough. Whenever I asked my friends about the habit, their response would be, “I just need it.” After recently doing some research, I’m now realizing that that’s the problem most girls are facing today.
A lot of young females, in my generation, too, equate a part of their self-worth with how they look on the outside and how much makeup is able to improve their appearances. There’s this underlying notion from a cornucopia of influences that says if you’re able to hide your flaws in any way, do so. As a result, girls are growing up with a psychological idea that their natural looks aren’t socially acceptable and that they should strive to enhance themselves. Instead of using makeup as a means to get dressed up or look nicer than usual, putting it on has become a daily habit that many see as a necessity before stepping out their front doors.
“From a survey conducted by the Renfrew Center Foundation in 2013, it has been discovered that one in five girls who have worn makeup between the ages of 8 and 18 years old have negative feelings about their looks when they don’t wear makeup, such as feeling self-conscious, unattractive or as if something is missing from their faces. Of the girls who wear makeup, 65 percent started wearing it between the ages of 8 and 13 and 27 percent hardly ever leave the house without wearing any. The places most girls feel are okay to be bare-faced are at home, the pool or beach and the gym. The least acceptable places to be bare-faced are friends’ houses and school.”
Their are toxic ingredients in makeup that, legally, manufacturers do not have to disclose on the specifics of the ingredients to the public. “The law does not require cosmetic products and ingredients, other than color additives, to have FDA approval before they go on the market,” (FDA Authority Over Cosmetics: How Cosmetics Are Not FDA-Approved, but Are FDA-Regulated).
5. Don’t post naked pictures of your baby on social media!
Babies are the sweetest gift in this life. There is nothing like the joy that a child brings you. Even on a bad day, they make you smile just because they are happy, laughing, or playing.
Just because your child is the cutest baby in the world, does not mean that it is smart, safe, or acceptable to post pictures of them taking a bath, for example.
Here are two (uncommon sense) reasons to not post naked pictures of your child:
- Child predators are in Social Media….(just think about that)
- Children grow into adults, and they might despise the fact that their naked body is on social media.