A Woman Broken …. Self-Doubt

“If only I … lost some weight… was prettier… was younger…”

Beauty is within. You have to stop believing  media lies that tell you beauty is about what you look like. Popular culture shows us what they think we should consider beauty, but the essence of a person is within them.

Looks fade… we all will age eventually, and you will want to be someone who loves you for everything you are, without looks. If a man does not want to be with you based off of your looks, then you do not want to be with a man like him. Love yourself, flaws and all!

Here are a list of things single-women and women in toxic-broken relationships say to themselves and how you can overcome self-doubt:

How could anyone ever love me!

Everyone deserves love, but you have to love yourself first. Self-love is the first step to having a healthy relationship, otherwise you go into the relationship broken and you break the one you love.



If you are struggling with confidence, do some self-care or self-love activities to boost your confidence in yourself. Make a list of the things you love about yourself. Complete daily breathing exercises. Take a bath! Find the time to do things for yourself, outside of being a relationship so you can determine your worth. Love yourself first!

I deserve this! or It’s my fault!

So many of us say this to ourselves, (I know I have) for various reasons…when you get cheated on… when we get dumped… in physical, sexual, and/or emotionally abusive relationships. We tell ourselves that it is our fault! No one deserves to be cheated on, lied to, hit, talked down to… You deserve to be treated like a queen!

I will never be good enough…

Knowing your worth is the first step to any healthy relationship. If you are not healthy, you will not have a healthy relationship. If you do not know your worth, no one will!0e153f66da4951bece2446fbf56713c8

He will never marry me…

If you think your man is never going to marry you, he probably won’t. That takes acceptance. As women, we are taught from childhood to believe in the fairy tale ending that we see in every Disney movie. We desire to live Happily Ever After… sometimes, even the man of your dreams is not your happy ending. Doubting your thoughts can keep you in a relationship for years…waiting for a ring that you may never get. One thing I know about men (not boys) is when they want something, they make sure they get it! If he wants to marry you, he will and you will know!

I am going to die alone!

This is such a morbid statement and so many of us have used it. We say the most horrific things to ourselves… Do you really think you are not worth spending the rest of your life with. Anyone would be happy to be with you until death do you part. Being alone is seen as such a negative thing, when it is the time to focus on yourself. Being in a relationship, right now, is not what you need, or you would be in one. What you need is to find your worth…to love yourself…appreciate yourself and see all that you are.

I can change him/them!

NO YOU CAN’T! You cannot change anyone! We are placed in each others lives to plant seeds. To show someone an alternative, but changing is an individual task. Maya Angelou said it best:


Staying with someone because you think that what you do will change them, is the biggest mistake we make in relationships. Leave them! Then you will see if they are willing to change to be with you. Demand what you need in a relationship and you will get it. If they can’t give you what you deserve, then they do not deserve you!

via Daily Prompt: Doubt


Ta'lor Pinkston

Hey beautiful! I am Ta'lor Pinkston, MSW|Founder of LADYHOOD journey, LLC|Self-love Social Worker|Women’s Self-love Lifestyle Blogger|Poet|Prospective Self-love Coach|Feminist|Equality Advocate LADYHOOD journey, LLC focuses on helping college girls, mothers, and every woman to incorporate self-love into their lifestyle, to be advocates for women's empowerment, and to focus on Healing Over Everything. Some of the topics discussed in my blog includes beauty standards, motherhood, body shaming, equality, and toxic relationships. In February 2018, the LADYHOOD journey Self-love Box will be launching with items to help you take care of you. I want women my site feeling inspired, uplifted, supported, and empowered on every stage of the journey. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Tea , sitting on my porch, trying new wines, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, Sabrina Claudio, Jessie Reyez, Jhene Aiko, and Coldplay,

51 thoughts on “A Woman Broken …. Self-Doubt

  1. This is indeed a lovely post aimed at celebrating feminism. Cheers to all the beautiful ladies out there. Special gratitude to Pinkspen for penning it in white. 🙂

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    1. Thank you sooooo much for reading!!!!!! That is all I want to do, uplift those who need it! Myself included. It is not easy being a woman in this male dominated society. We have to stand up for one another!!!!!!!

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      1. Yes, unity is strength. More power to you. Keep writing. 🙂 Please do stop by my blog too as I am new in this blogging world. Need some assistance. 😀

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  2. I think we all felt self-doubt at some point of our lives, I know I did. I did think that I am going to die alone, that nobody will love me for who I am.

    But I’ve learned to love myself because nobody else would. 🙂

    Thanks for stopping by my blog!

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    1. Yes…its A sad reality, but we have to start loving on ourselves. I definitely thought some of the things I wrote, even said it out loud sometimes.
      You blog is awesome! Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts!

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      1. I am so glad you feel that way. That is my goal…to reach the masses with challenges and uplifting messages! Thank you for your support and for reaching out!


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