Is ‘Equality’ taking the ‘Lady’ out of Women Today?

It is extremely difficult to be a modern woman. The financial demands alone, have made it almost impossible to be a stay-at-home mom, because if most of us didn’t work, we would be considered low-income. As a fairly new mother myself, who struggled financially due to the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) and the required amount of unpaid Maternity Leave women can get when pregnant or after delivery of their child, I know what it is like to struggle financially.


There was no way I could be financially stable and be a stay-at-home mother. I feel that all women have the right to work and take care of their families, but sometimes I wonder if I was neglecting my child by putting her in childcare at 9 months, or if she would be “more balanced… happier if we had followed a traditional family situation.”



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I ask this question to cause thought and prompt responses from you dear readers for my own pondering ………

I’ve recently been considering “what makes a woman a lady?”

I’ve reached that phase of life where I could become a grandma at any time and that has reminded of my own Grandma and Nanna, who they were and what they stood for.

Both women were beautiful, elegant, kind, loving, well spoken, well dressed, to a degree ….God fearing and most definitely, both were true ladies. Both women taught me practical life skills and spiritual lessons. They had the classic traits, I would say, of real ladies.

They came from a different era though, their only concern was to keep a good home for their families and attend to their working husbands. Once married these women did not work outside the home any longer. Their work then involved house chores…

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Pinkspen is a female, a girl, a growing woman, and first and foremost, a mother to a beautiful daughter. She wants daughter to learn to be the best version of herself; to become the strong, modest, and purposeful lady, that she knows she will be one day.  Pinkspen graduated from California University of Pennsylvania, with a BACHELOR'S DEGREE in Creative Writing, BA, and a MASTER'S DEGREE in Social Work, MSW. She is in the process of attaining her LSW and eventually my LCSW. Although, her passion is working with youth and families, she has always wanted to become a known writer who supports Childhood Development, Anti-Bullying, Healthy Relationships, Equality, and the Empowerment of all Women.  LADYHOOD journey, will hopefully help teens entering college and young women everywhere to see that they are capable of being the best versions of themselves; "we are more than what popular culture says we are." Together we can take this journey of LADYHOOD and advocate for women's rights, peace, self-love, and equality for all women.

10 thoughts on “Is ‘Equality’ taking the ‘Lady’ out of Women Today?

  1. But, won’t a true lady be someone who is able to balance both her own aspirations and her family’s needs? I mean many people work simply because they want to. A woman may have to introduce ‘changes’ and ‘adjustments’ in her working pattern after getting married. But, shouldn’t her family too adjust to give her own space?

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    1. I think that is accurate, but when it comes to raising children, you want them to be safe, happy, healthy….and it is difficult trusting that certain child cares or even schools are providing your child with those needs. I would hate it if my daughter grew up wishing that I was there for her more…that would break my heart!

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  2. A question which haunts every working mom , whether it will be bad to leave their kids at daycare centers.. I will say, it’s not about traditional beliefs or not, rather ask oneself.. We love them, not because of our responsibility coming from a moral background, rather its the love out of love..isnt it.. So it’s totally the parents decision

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    1. Exactly…it is so important to me that my daughter be a well-rounded individual. I want her to have every opportunity and to see the beauty in this life. Modern motherhood is difficult, but ultimately we are doing our bests and it is unrealistic to determine a right and wrong way to do this! I really appreciate the author, shellsizzle for writing such a thoughtful post!

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