Is ‘Equality’ taking the ‘Lady’ out of Women Today?

It is extremely difficult to be a modern woman. The financial demands alone, have made it almost impossible to be a stay-at-home mom, because if most of us didn’t work, we would be considered low-income. As a fairly new mother myself, who struggled financially due to the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) and the required amount of unpaid Maternity Leave women can get when pregnant or after delivery of their child, I know what it is like to struggle financially.


There was no way I could be financially stable and be a stay-at-home mother. I feel that all women have the right to work and take care of their families, but sometimes I wonder if I was neglecting my child by putting her in childcare at 9 months, or if she would be “more balanced… happier if we had followed a traditional family situation.”



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I ask this question to cause thought and prompt responses from you dear readers for my own pondering ………

I’ve recently been considering “what makes a woman a lady?”

I’ve reached that phase of life where I could become a grandma at any time and that has reminded of my own Grandma and Nanna, who they were and what they stood for.

Both women were beautiful, elegant, kind, loving, well spoken, well dressed, to a degree ….God fearing and most definitely, both were true ladies. Both women taught me practical life skills and spiritual lessons. They had the classic traits, I would say, of real ladies.

They came from a different era though, their only concern was to keep a good home for their families and attend to their working husbands. Once married these women did not work outside the home any longer. Their work then involved house chores…

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Welcome ladies and gentlemen! This is Ta'lor Pinkspen, BA|MSW|SFW, Inspirational Blogger for women, Poet, Prospective Self-love Coach, Feminist, Equality Advocate, and Women & Family Therapist My blog focuses on Women's Empowerment, Beauty Standards, Body Positivity, Motherhood, Healthy Relationships, College girls and Equality. LADYHOOD journey seeks to uplift all women and promote self-love. LADYHOOD journey challenges social concerns like body shaming, beauty standards, racial and gender discrimination, in order to empower women to be advocates and to incorporate self-love into their journey. I want women and all my readers to leave my site feeling uplifted, supported, and empowered in every stage of life. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Chia Tea or Iced Coffee, sitting on my porch while drinking a glass of dry red wine or dark beer, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, SZA, Pentatonix, H.E.R, Alessia Cara, Sabrina Claudio, Jhene Aiko, Frank Ocean, Coldplay, and Kings of Leon.

10 thoughts on “Is ‘Equality’ taking the ‘Lady’ out of Women Today?

  1. But, won’t a true lady be someone who is able to balance both her own aspirations and her family’s needs? I mean many people work simply because they want to. A woman may have to introduce ‘changes’ and ‘adjustments’ in her working pattern after getting married. But, shouldn’t her family too adjust to give her own space?

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    1. I think that is accurate, but when it comes to raising children, you want them to be safe, happy, healthy….and it is difficult trusting that certain child cares or even schools are providing your child with those needs. I would hate it if my daughter grew up wishing that I was there for her more…that would break my heart!

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  2. A question which haunts every working mom , whether it will be bad to leave their kids at daycare centers.. I will say, it’s not about traditional beliefs or not, rather ask oneself.. We love them, not because of our responsibility coming from a moral background, rather its the love out of love..isnt it.. So it’s totally the parents decision

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    1. Exactly…it is so important to me that my daughter be a well-rounded individual. I want her to have every opportunity and to see the beauty in this life. Modern motherhood is difficult, but ultimately we are doing our bests and it is unrealistic to determine a right and wrong way to do this! I really appreciate the author, shellsizzle for writing such a thoughtful post!

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