Here are the five African American leaders that I am thankful/grateful for because without their service, dedication to uplift others, example and motivation to continue to fight for equality, we would not be where we are today!
At the center of my heart, there is a bubble.
a bubble filled with a dark cloud.
a dark cloud of worry, fear, concern, pain…
pain that floats inside my heart and aches…
aches due to inequality and disparities…
There are so many things that I am grateful for.
Even when I am hurt, sad, disappointed, angry…. I remind myself that there are so many others who are in worse situations, and that could be me.
Life is full of many blessings…
I am seven away from having 1,000 views for the month of February! 😆This has been the most views, in a month, that my blog has received. 😄
I am so honored to be a part of this community, and I want to thank every follower and the entire WordPress blogging community for the views, likes, comments and reblogs! 😊
It means more to me than any of you know!
There is always something to be grateful for. They can be huge things and they can be small.
The five things I am grateful and thankful for today are:
1. My daughter’s smile
2. My Godson’s
I am so grateful and thankful for:
1. The sunrise… as the sun shines through my window every morning to remind me that there is always light after darkness!
2. COFFEE!!!! The smell… The taste… it is my life line!
I read a post that completely disturbed me…
I am beyond disappointed, hurt, or fury…
Trying to understand how someone could be so simple-minded, belittling, and ignorant, does not come easy to me. This post, “I will not apologize to faggots” how I hate that word, which is why I used * in my original post Call me a F***** Lover, visit here: https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/2017/02/02/call-me-a-f-lover/), was a slap in the face to anyone in the LGBTQIAP+ community and to anyone who supports them.
The slurs, judgement, and violent descriptions of how gays should feel about themselves in this post is a clear depiction of why suicide rates are so high for members of the LGBTQIAP+ community.
In this post, members of the LGBTQIAP+ community are referred to as:
“damn butt pluggers…”
“Those nasty ass no account, filthy, shit smelling faggots should be disrespected…”
“disgusting, vile and filthy degenerates…”
“rejects from hell…”
Saying that who they are is “sick ass, twisted shit!”
When it came to being discriminated against, she stated, “Those immoral freaks of nature are the last things slithering that’s deserving of an apology, despicable abominations!”
But, here is the quote that got me boiling… I wanted to reach through my screen…
“You honestly want everyone who is not down with your lifestyle choices to apologize to you if we so much as look cross-eyed at your nasty ass? Well, beg me to apologize to you useless fucks and please hold your breath until I do because that way, you’d all be dead because you’d turn blue and keel over before I’d ever apologize for a goddamn thing I say about you or to you.”
In response to a comment someone made about offending someone with this post, the writer stated, ignorantly,“If they don’t like what they see here and if they are faggot lovers, then they can just ‘unfollow’ me and get ta steppin’! By now, everyone who steps foot up in here know my feelings or lack thereof over those detestable creatures. And I hope like hell I offended some filthy ass butt pokers, I hope I did ’cause I’m hoping they hold their breath while awaiting an apology. They some dead motherfuckers if they is!! LOL!!”
What a bigot!
On behalf of my friends that are gay… on behalf of every young boy or girl struggling with determining their sexuality, and on behalf of the entire LGBTQIAP+ community, I am so sorry that people are ignorant… that they do not see hat the words they use, hurt. They are so caught up in the right and wrong, and because the do not understand nor agree, they target your lifestyle to bash and bully. They treat you like you are not a human…
…a human with rights.
…a human that loves.
…a human that feels pain.
…a human that just wants to be treated as an equal.
We have to stop using slurs like F*****
Please know that you are beautiful, handsome, intelligent, proud, bold, passionate, and so strong to stand up for your rights; the rights of others and for what is right.
Never stop fighting, and never let someone tell you that you are less than because of the way you were born and how you live your life.
(For more information, read It’s not a choice… where I speak out against why who we are attracted too and who we love, is not a choice)
Here are some other motivational and uplifting posts that I hope can lift your spirits through the negativity of this world:
Please do not stop advocating for those who are being discriminated against. Advocate for yourself! Love yourself!
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Self-Care: Thankfulness and Gratitude
Do you need something positive, for yourself, in your life?
Often times, it can be difficult to look at life and see it for all the beauty that it brings. It is so easy for us to judge, point fingers, and complain, but it is important to point out the blessings in our lives because this is what keeps us humble. Expressing thanks and gratitude are so important, because even in difficult times, we are able to focus on the positive aspects of life. Stress is a killer, and finding ways to reduce stress is so important for healthy living.
Introducing positive self-care habits into your life, can help relieve stress and give you another outlook on your current situation.
Keeping a Gratitude Journal can help with can provide multiple benefits:
“As we’ve reported many times over the years, studies have traced a range of impressive benefits to the simple act of writing down the things for which we’re grateful—benefits including better sleep, fewer symptoms of illness, and more happiness among adults and kids alike.” -Jason Marsh
Read More: Tips for Keeping a Gratitude Journal http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/tips_for_keeping_a_gratitude_journal
What is a Gratitude Journal?
According to Jason Marsh , “The basic practice is straightforward. In many of the studies, people are simply instructed to record five things they experienced in the past week for which they’re grateful. The entries are supposed to be brief—just a single sentence—and they range from the mundane (“waking up this morning”) to the sublime (“the generosity of friends”) to the timeless (“the Rolling Stones”).”
“For years I’ve been advocating the power and pleasure of being grateful. I kept a gratitude journal for a full decade without fail—and urged you all to do the same. Then life got busy. My schedule overwhelmed me. I still opened my journal some nights, but my ritual of writing down five things I was grateful for every day started slipping away.” -Oprah Winfrey
Read More: What Oprah Knows for Sure About Gratitude http://www.oprah.com/spirit/oprahs-gratitude-journal-oprah-on-gratitude
The most important aspect about keeping a Gratitude Journal is highlighting those things that you are grateful for, the positive things in your life, and the things that bring you joy.
It is important for me to keep this journal because I have low moments, and I need to remind myself of my blessings. I have been slowly adapting self-care habits into my life because I do not want to be a pessimistic, negative thinking, spiteful person. I have not always expressed myself in the most healthy way, and with this Gratitude Journal, I am hoping I can express and remind myself that there is so much to be thankful for.
Pledge: Every day, for the next 7 days, I will write down 5 things that I am grateful for; the positive things in my life, and the things that make me happy!
Journal Entry 1
Today was a really rough day for me. I have not been in the best mood…my personal life is a little rocky but I can still see the joys in my life. Although, I am not sure of what the future holds, I know that God has me in his hands and he will guide me through whatever obstacles that may come my way. I am truly thankful and so grateful for so many things in my life, but it is important to document these things because it is easy to take things for granted. I don’t want to forget my blessings, and I don’t want to be ungrateful for all that God has blessed me with.
1. I am so grateful for my beautiful daughter! She is so intelligent, energetic, and she has a beautiful spirit. I am so blessed to have her, to hold her, to watch her grow up. I thank God for this little girl and I love her more and more every day.
2. I have a great family! My mother, father, younger sister, my cousins… their support, love, and prayers are what motivates me to be a better me.
3. I am grateful for waking up in the morning, for life and breath!
4. I am grateful for writing. It helps me get through tough times because I can express my thoughts in a way that I cannot when I speak.
5. I feel so blessed for my boyfriend. He is such an awesome father, and I do not tell him enough. No matter the difficulties, we have so much love for one another. I cherish our love and value our relationship.
I think it is so important to have quality self-care in your relationship. The reality is, if you come into a relationship, broken, like I did, you will more than likely hurt the person you are with.
When it comes to building healthy relationships, many people try to start with the relationship itself. While this isn’t a bad idea, the truth is, people are the foundations of relationships; and like anything else in life, if we don’t start with a strong foundation, the building never holds up for very long.
Who are Healthy People?
Healthy people are those who come to the table without emotional baggage, and with their priorities in check. Health should also cover the physical state of the individual, including their HIV status.
This is not to say that people with mental and physical illnesses cannot and should not enter into relationships. What it does mean is that should either of you make such a decision, do so knowing what you’re getting yourself into, and preparing for the obstacles ahead.
The current estimate is that one in five American adults experience mental…
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