The most difficult part of being a mother

As a new mother, I am often asked, “how do you like being a mother?” I think that is a strange question to ask someone… If I said, “I hate it!” everyone would think I was the worst person. Right? 😉 but typically, the answers are:

“I love it!”

“It is the best thing that ever happened to me.”

“…it is a challenge but I wouldn’t change it for the world.”

But, the other day, someone asked me, what I feel was the most difficult question regarding motherhood.

“What is the most difficult part of being a mother?” 

(what a question…)

I stopped, thought about it…and there were so many things that came to mind like:

teaching my daugther to latch…

pumping late at night so my breast don’t become engorged…

getting my daugther to fall asleep without nursing…

teaching my daugther not to bite the teet…

vaxinations…

waking up on the hour to feed…

always being tired…

the selflessness…

Although, all challenging, were not the most difficult parts of being a mother.

The most challenging part of being a mother, and I know most mothers would agree is learning to let go!

Letting go of your children is the challenge because it happens almost immediately.

Allow your child cry themselves to sleep so that they are not sleeping in your bed until they are 5, is letting them go…

When they crawl, walk, climb stairs, try to get off the couch and the bed on their own, is a part of letting them go and explore the world around them…

Being a parent is constantly letting your child go because from they day they are born, they are getting older, and it never stops. Children grow up, and that is the most difficult part about being a parent; you have to let them go, be, learn, see, and experience life. Every parent wants and misses when their child needed them for everything. My daughter is 13 months, and I miss it already. I can’t even wrap my head around her first day of school, first sleepover, first adult tooth, first relationship, her first kiss, her first breakup; when she gets married, her first child…

…from the day a child is born, you are letting them go, and its the hardest thing that I have ever done.

 -Pinkspen

via Discover Challenge: Tough Questions

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Ta'lor Pinkspen

Welcome ladies and gentlemen! This is Ta'lor Pinkspen, BA|MSW|SFW, Inspirational Blogger, Poet, Self-love Coach, Feminist, Equality Advocate, Women and Family Social Worker My blog focuses on Women's Empowerment, Beauty Standards, Body Positivity, Motherhood, Healthy Relationships, College girls and Equality. LADYHOOD journey seeks to uplift all women and promote self-love. LADYHOOD journey challenges social concerns like body shaming, beauty standards, racial and gender discrimination, in order to empower women to be advocates and to love their natural beauty. I want women and all my readers to leave my site feeling uplifted, supported, and empowered in every stage of life. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Chia Tea or Iced Coffee, sitting on my porch while drinking a glass of dry red wine or dark beer, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, SZA, Pentatonix, H.E.R, Alessia Cara, Jhene Aiko, Frank Ocean, Coldplay, and Kings of Leon.

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