Facebook Etiquette: #timeline

Everyone does not need to know what you are doing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!

Just because Facebook exists, does not mean that you should post the most intimate details of your life all over your Timeline!

(it’s none of our business!)

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Promises

If you tell me I am not smart enough, I’ll pass every test!
If you say that I am not pretty enough, I will take selfie after selfie!
If you tell me I’ll fail, on my worst day, I will succeed!
If you break my heart, I will not give up on love.
If you try to stop me, I will keep going.
If you hate me, I will love me!
If you don’t support me, I will not fall.
If you won’t hear me, I will make you listen!
If you think I will not make it, I will make sure I live out my dreams!
If you say that I am weak, I will only become stronger.
If you give up on me, I will never stop trying!
If you tell me that I am not good enough, I’ll show you who’s bad!
If you leave me, I’ll make you wish you would have stayed.
If you say I am not worth it, I will show you my value.
If you turn your back on me, I will only move forward!
If you dismiss me, I will persevere.
If you doubt me, I’ll prove you wrong!
If you tell me I can’t, I will…

-Pinkspen

Celebrate and be proud of everything you are. 



via Daily Prompt: Promises

 

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The True Meaning of Christmas

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Linus Van Pelt: [after Linus and Charlie Brown discover the little tree] Gee, do they still make wooden Christmas trees?

Charlie Brown: This little green one here seems to need a home.

Linus Van Pelt: I don’t know, Charlie Brown. Remember what Lucy said? This doesn’t seem to fit the modern spirit.

Charlie Brown: I don’t care. We’ll decorate it and it’ll be just right for our play. Besides, I think it needs me.

[picks up tree; a lot of needles fall off]

A Charlie Brown Christmas (quotes) 1965 TV Short

Christmas is the time of year for family & friends, giving, and joy. Decorating the Christmas tree, stringing lights on the porch & windows, drinking egg nog, hot chocolate with marshmallows & wassail, giving & opening presents, Christmas cards, snuggling under a blanket watching holiday movies, attending the Christmas service at church, playing in the snow, and ugly sweater Christmas parties are fun traditions that I love to share with family and friends.

Christmas is also the time of year when you sit in traffic for hours, parking spaces are stolen, theft is high, we spend more than we have, bills go unpaid, and greed, guilt, ungratefulness, jealousy & envy are inevitable.

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This is not what Christmas means to me.

When I was a child, I had no idea what my parents went through to make sure we had a good Christmas. Shopping on Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving (after you just spent your bill money, on the biggest dinner of the year), buying wrapping paper, bows, & ribbon, baking cookies for Santa Claus, wrapping gifts until 2 in the morning, getting up at 7:00a to cook us breakfast, telling the story of when Jesus was born to Mary in Bethlehem… the list goes on-and-on. I have wonderful holiday memories of Christmas time with my family, but as I got older, I began hating the greed, guilt, ungratefulness, envy that I felt every year…

Every year…

…I hoped I would get certain presents and had to spend extra money on my friends & family (Christmas is the season of giving) – Greed

…When I couldn’t afford to buy certain gifts, I would feel bad because I didn’t have enough money – Guilt

…Not getting what I wanted made me feel badly – Ungratefulness

…I felt badly when my friends got more gifts than I did – Jealousy & Envy

The standard of Christmas is cultural, traditional, and popular culture & media have made it so hard to keep up. We have allowed ourselves to just go-with-the-flow, and do what the media tells us we should do when it comes to celebrating Christmas. We have even told ourselves that Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus, when in reality, I do not think that God is pleased with the way we choose to celebrate…the extra spending, when in reality, we don’t have the money to spend. Every story in the Bible speaks about how Jesus gave to the needy, the poor, the less fortunate, the sick. I didn’t read a single verse in the Bible, about lights, Christmas trees, decorations, over-eating…the list goes on-and-on… The spending spirit, has become the American tradition during the Christmas holiday and it causes stress on us because we are just trying to keep up.

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This is my daughters first Christmas and I decided that I am not buying a tree, ornaments, lights, wreaths, wrapping paper, bows, ribbons, gift bags; un-needed toys, clothing and shoes. I don’t want my daughter to think that this is what Christmas is about. I got my immediate family each one gift and a few friends a gift and that’s it! I refuse to be stressed about a man-made holiday, no matter what meaning is behind it. And sadly, I feel guilty about not participating in the traditions…people make you feel bad…

“you are not gonna get your baby a tree?”

“it’s her first Christmas! She deserves some decorations!”

“so, how does the baby like her tree?”

“you are not getting the baby any gifts?”

I am not rich! I am not even in a good financial state and most would still spend the money for their bills, to try to have a good Christmas, but that is just not me. The pressure is not fair.

The true meaning of Christmas, is about the simple things, spending time with family, laughter, love, joy, and peace.

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Christmas is not about spending you last dime!

-Pinkspen

 

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Facebook Etiquette: #realtalk

 So, if I don’t see it on Facebook, I miss it?

You are really not going to call me…?

I’m just suppose to read every word on every Post

Did I Like it? I might have…

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But, what does that mean…?

I guess I don’t have a life…

I would have called you… to let you know!

We are not talking about a house party or something simple….

…these are serious Life Events that I am missing because no one talks anymore!

If I don’t see it on my News-Feed, I miss it?

If it is not on my Timeline, it didn’t happen!

If it is not on your Timeline, I don’t know about it!

Is posting a Status on Facebook the only way of communicating?

I would have called you…

 I can’t even get a text about it?

So, if my data is low, I don’t know what is going on in my “Friends” and family’s lives…???

That pisses me off!!!!!!!

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And yes, I am guilty of it too, but I hate this…

…I hate this Facebook culture!

We have become so caught up in this photographed short storybook, that “we don’t even talk anymore, like we use to…” (Charlie Puth ft. Selena Gomez)

Don’t get me wrong…I think that it is great to catch up with old classmates from high school, connect with family that our long distance, and network with individuals with similar interests.

But, the problem is my family, people that I call friend…not associates…do not update me on their lives! I mean, I have your phone number, and you have mine! Call me when something big happens in your life!

We assume that if it is on Facebook, everyone we know, sees what Events are coming up…

who got married…

engaged…

who passed away… #RWG

who had kids… #Congratulations

If you deactivate your account for a month, guaranteed, you would not know what was going on in your “friends” lives.

And what, you’ve got like 500+ “friends” right…?

To me, that is ridiculous!!!!

 

Excuse me world, there are other forms of communication!

Facebook Rule #1: Don’t assume that just because everyone has a Facebook page, that they know what is going on in your life. Call your friends! Call your family, at least!

-Pinkspen


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Flee

a long drive ahead…windows down

warmth, dust and smog in the wind…

pounding pavement…

wheels spin.

Red, white, and blue in the distance…

Hair down & wild…

mascara trails..

knuckle gripped,

chest tight,

heart hammering…

fire lit and smoke surrounds…

…red & blue sirens blare in the distance…

no more discrimination…

 no racism…

no stereotypes…

no inequality…

no turning back!

freedom, at last….

-Pinkspen

 

via Daily Prompt: Flee

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3 Goals for LADYHOOD

I have big dreams for LADYHOOD (my future brand), and I want to share them with the world.

1. Update my plan with wordpress.com in order to make my blog site official: by the end of Jan. 2017

I want to reach out to as many people as I can with my words by sharing my personal experiences, my best mistakes, and the dreams I have for myself as a woman. LADYHOOD is for my daughter future…she is my motivation! It is important for me to share my experiences to educated younger generations, because as girls, we have to stick together…”this is a man’s world, but it wouldn’t be nothing, without a woman or a girl.” -James Brown

2. Find an artist to create my mark for my brand LADYHOOD,: by March 2017

It is so important for me to make LADYHOOD a brand, my brand. A brand that unites women of different races, ethnicity, cultures; to provide them with a safe-space for talking about their dreams, goals, fears, and the concerns we face in today’s popular culture. I want my own mentoring and counseling facility where I can discuss these concerns with clients who are transgender women, high school students going into college, college freshman females, mothers, and all women alike, because we all have similar desires, pain; and we all make mistakes that we can learn from.

3. to start focusing on my up-and-coming self-help book for College Freshman Females: I would love to publish by the end of Dec. 2017

There are soooo many steps to complete while I am writing:

  1. find an editor
  2. find a agent (maybe)
  3. self-publishing or a publishing agency?
  4. designing my cover (artist needed)
  5. (I am sure there are more steps to consider…)

The most difficult part of being a mother

As a new mother, I am often asked, “how do you like being a mother?” I think that is a strange question to ask someone… If I said, “I hate it!” everyone would think I was the worst person. Right? 😉 but typically, the answers are:

“I love it!”

“It is the best thing that ever happened to me.”

“…it is a challenge but I wouldn’t change it for the world.”

But, the other day, someone asked me, what I feel was the most difficult question regarding motherhood.

“What is the most difficult part of being a mother?” 

(what a question…)

I stopped, thought about it…and there were so many things that came to mind like:

teaching my daugther to latch…

pumping late at night so my breast don’t become engorged…

getting my daugther to fall asleep without nursing…

teaching my daugther not to bite the teet…

vaxinations…

waking up on the hour to feed…

always being tired…

the selflessness…

Although, all challenging, were not the most difficult parts of being a mother.

The most challenging part of being a mother, and I know most mothers would agree is learning to let go!

Letting go of your children is the challenge because it happens almost immediately.

Allow your child cry themselves to sleep so that they are not sleeping in your bed until they are 5, is letting them go…

When they crawl, walk, climb stairs, try to get off the couch and the bed on their own, is a part of letting them go and explore the world around them…

Being a parent is constantly letting your child go because from they day they are born, they are getting older, and it never stops. Children grow up, and that is the most difficult part about being a parent; you have to let them go, be, learn, see, and experience life. Every parent wants and misses when their child needed them for everything. My daughter is 13 months, and I miss it already. I can’t even wrap my head around her first day of school, first sleepover, first adult tooth, first relationship, her first kiss, her first breakup; when she gets married, her first child…

…from the day a child is born, you are letting them go, and its the hardest thing that I have ever done.

 -Pinkspen

via Discover Challenge: Tough Questions

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Black Girl in a White World

I brush, pick, twist, curl, braid, and lock my hair…
I switch, bounce, tap, and rock my hips…

My smile may be wide, but my heart is too!
My eyes may be broad, but my mind is too!
I talk loud, because I am passionate!
I walk proud, because I am going somewhere!

My tongue may be quick, but my feet are steady!
My mind may think differently, but my blood is the same!
I fight for my equality…
I go to war for the equality of others…

No, you may not touch my hair…
No, I can’t teach you how to dance…
No, I am not angry…I just don’t respond well to bull s***

I am curvaceous!
I am beautiful!
I am strong!
I love hard!

My smile may be wide, but my heart is too!
My eyes may be broad, but my mind is too!
I talk loud, because I am passionate!
I walk proud, because I am going somewhere!

I brush, pick, twist, curl, braid, and lock my hair…
I switch, bounce, tap, and rock my hips…

-Pinkspen

 

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Maternity Leave in America: The story of the struggling mother

I found out I was pregnant, one month after I received my Masters Degree…

Just before I was about to transition from student to working woman, I was hit with the reality that I was going to be a working woman who was also a mother.

My boyfriend and I were broke; living with my mother, and about to move into a 1-bedroom apartment, because that was all we could afford.

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