Guys want your “goodies”

The College Girl Dating Rulebook

From one college girl to another, after you graduate, whether from your Undergraduate, Master’s, or both degrees like myself, you will still think about how foolish you were where relationships are concerned.

I spent 8 years living on one college campus, first in the dorms and then off-campus in multiple apartments, and there are some things that I wish I would have known before I made simple and some major mistakes in dating…

This is the first post of a list of rules that I want to share with girls who are:

  • graduating from high school and planning to attend college
  • Freshman girls already living on or off campus
  • upperclassmen who are trapped in various relationships with guys on a college campus and don’t know how they got there.

Rule #1: Most men want your “goodies” and they will say or do anything to get it!!!!!!

I remember the first day of classes… In the middle of campus was the Student Union that hosted the main cafeteria. It was a large building of intimidation, filled with students entering and exiting in between classes. I decided to get food. As I walked into the Union, having no idea of where I was going, I decided to follow the students in front of me. As I walked up the stairwell, I see 10-15 upperclassmen sitting in booths and chairs at the top landing, and as every attractive female walked past, they would shout of various forms of flattery to guarantee her attention.

A few girls would walk over to them and some would just smile and continue to other floors. When I reached the landing, I was greeted with the same form of flattery…I couldn’t help but smile but I continued to the cafe.

At the time, I had just turned 18, and the first month as a college freshman was filled with attention from guys. What started out with guys asking for my number, turned into “oooo girl what I got to do to get that?”

What I came to realize is that it didn’t take much. What I wish I would have been told is how good it would feel to have college guys admire my honey eyes, big butt and full figure.

We as women know all about the lines that men use to get our attention, what no one says is how to ignore this attention.

It is difficult because compliments feel so good to hear, and since all women have some form of insecurity, knowing the difference between a genuine compliment from a guy who really likes you, as opposed to the guy who just wants to “smash” or “hit that,” can be difficult.

Here is the Secret:

To prevent falling for the flattery and compliments, understand that most guys are doing and saying the same thing to every other girl on campus. The guy that really wants to be with you, will not shout you out in front of all his friends because he wants you to himself. He won’t tell anyone except his best friend about you.

As a woman, you are special and you should not need a man to tell you or make you feel that you are.

Don’t fall for the words, wait for the actions.


Please visit College 101 for Freshman Females for the full list of rules.


Ta'lor Pinkston

Hey beautiful! I am Ta'lor Pinkston, MSW|Founder of LADYHOOD journey, LLC|Self-love Social Worker|Women’s Self-love Lifestyle Blogger|Poet|Prospective Self-love Coach|Feminist|Equality Advocate LADYHOOD journey, LLC focuses on helping college girls, mothers, and every woman to incorporate self-love into their lifestyle, to be advocates for women's empowerment, and to focus on Healing Over Everything. Some of the topics discussed in my blog includes beauty standards, motherhood, body shaming, equality, and toxic relationships. In February 2018, the LADYHOOD journey Self-love Box will be launching with items to help you take care of you. I want women my site feeling inspired, uplifted, supported, and empowered on every stage of the journey. I love to spend time with my daughter, going to local bars and restaurants with family & friends, online shopping, photography, writing poetry, sipping Tea , sitting on my porch, trying new wines, and listening to music from artists like Chance the Rapper, Sabrina Claudio, Jessie Reyez, Jhene Aiko, and Coldplay,

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